Author Archives: Sarah Jae-Jones

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The F Word

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The F Word

In this column, a recent college grad getting her footing in the world gives advice to her teenage self.

Dear JJ:

Today I want to talk about the “F word”. No, not that one. That one. Yes, THAT one. You know what the word is. Oh yes. No, not feminist. Feminist is not a dirty word, you know that. But you know what’s also not a dirty word? Feminine. More »

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The Meaning of Privilege

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The Meaning of Privilege

In this new column, a recent college grad getting her footing in the world gives advice to her teenage self.

Dear JJ:

You suck. No really, you suck. You stupid, solipsistic, self-confident, self-contained sucky person. You’re the reason I sit here in front of my computer week after week being completely and utterly unable to think of things on which to advise you. (And it’s only the third week.) Stop being so damned well-adjusted! We could have had problems, baby, you and me. We could have been a troubled teenager. We could have had addiction problems. We could have had bad boyfriends (or boyfriends at all). We could have been a success story, one of those inspirational anecdotes in Chicken Soup for the Post-Graduate Soul: look how she’s overcome her late teenage existential crises to become a self-assured adult! More »

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: Failing To Imagine Others Complexly

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: Failing To Imagine Others Complexly

In this new column, a recent college grad getting her footing in the world gives advice to her teenage self.

Dear JJ:

“A woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets.” Laugh all you want, but by the time you get to my age, the backlash against Titanic will have faded and you will be free to enjoy the movie with only the tiniest degree of irony. (The real irony being, of course, that you missed the phenomenon altogether because you were 12 years old when it was released in the theatres. Our parents wouldn’t let you watch PG-13 movies until you were 13. 13! You were six months away! The unfairness of it all! And no, you still haven’t forgiven them.) I only mention this because yes, a woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets, or at least, it seems that way to all the boys you know. More »

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The Little Things

Lessons from the Other Side of 21: The Little Things

In this new column, a recent college grad getting her footing in the world gives advice to her teenage self.

Dear JJ:

To be frank it’s hard to think of advice to give you. It’s partially because you disdain the advice of “wiser heads”, but also because I’m reluctant to affect you coming to conclusions about life on your own. People will comment on what they perceive as your well-adjustedness, but I maintain our well-adjustedness is simply a product of perspective. Ours. More »