Ready for another great Mindy Kaling quote? If you’re not already collecting them in a scrapbook decorated with heart stickers and fun words like “selfie” and “freedom” and “adorbs” cut out of women’s magazines, what are you even spending your time doing? Mindy is practically made of great quotes. I think if you look at her skin with a magnifying glass you’ll see inspirational, witty words seeping from her pores.
Take, for instance, her thoughts on being single, from a new interview with Flare magazine. It’s one of the most refreshingly honest, relatable explanations for not wanting to settle down I’ve ever read:
“In my 20s, I was not only boy crazy, but marriage and relationship crazy … Now it’s almost the opposite. My work is so rewarding and I’m so self-centred about it that I’m kind of excited about not having to go home and ask someone about their day.”
Marriage is going to be a popular topic in Mindy’s interviews now that she’s 35 and still single (THE HORROR!), so I love that she gives such a frank explanation. If she had just said “my work is so rewarding,” that would have been a perfectly acceptable response. But I like that she took it a step further and got realer than real about things. Being single doesn’t have to be a sad, lonely experience. Sometimes it’s really nice to just be able to unwind with some chicken wings, watch bad TV, and not talk to anyone for hours at a time. Yeah, I realize that’s not what she said. I was just adding my own two cents to the conversation.
Our society sadly has this idea that not settling down or having kids is somehow selfish. (Especially about not having kids — when did that become a crime?) But what’s wrong with wanting to focus on your own life or career or hobbies? If anything, it’s actually selfless not to combine your life with someone else’s in that scenario. When you don’t have anyone there to devote your time and attention to, you can’t hurt anyone by not devoting your time and attention to them. Acknowledging that you’re not ready for commitment, and admitting that you’re too wrapped up in your own stuff at the moment, rather than forcing yourself into it because it’s expected of you, is actually very mature. Get it? Got it? Good.