How Many Bachelor And Bachelorette Couples Actually Stayed Together?

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The season finale of The Bachelorette is airing tonight, so in honor of that hallowed event, I thought we should probably take a stroll down memory lane and see how the previous couples to come from that show are doing. (Spoiler alert: not well.)

The whole point of the show is to help people meet their soulmates, but considering every season typically ends with a proposal, a surprisingly small amount of these pairs ever make it down the aisle. Something to do with six weeks not being enough amount of time to decide whether you want to spend a lifetime with someone, maybe? Or else the fact that once you get engaged, you’re not allowed to see each other at all until it finishes airing, so that people don’t know who you chose.

Those two factors just aren’t super conducive to building a successful partnership, no matter what ABC wants you to believe. So I wish you all the best tonight, Andi Dorfman, and I have no doubt that the dude you pick will take a knee and put a ring on it during the finale, but with the odds we’re looking at over the history of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, it’s gonna take some serious work to keep said ring firmly in place.

Oh and a helpful hint for reading this — if the man’s name is first, the couple is from The Bachelor, while if the woman’s name is first, they’re from The Bachelorette.

1. Alex Michel and Amanda Marsh

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Season Premiere: March 25, 2002
Relationship Status
: Terminated

This was the first season of The Bachelor, so it was back in the day when you didn’t necessarily have to propose at the end. So Alex didn’t, although he and Amanda did begin a relationship…only to break up a few months later.

2. Aaron Buerge and Helene Eksterowicz

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Season Premiere: September 25, 2002
Relationship Status: Terminated

These two gave it the old college try…by which I mean they got engaged and then broke up after a couple of weeks.

3. Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter

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Season Premiere: January 8, 2003
Relationship Status
: Married

The rare success story, this couple has been milked by the franchise for all they’re worth. ABC televised their wedding in 2003 as a three-part miniseries, and trot them into the spotlight any time anyone complains about the show’s success rate. Only problem is, there are a lot of rumors out there that Trista and Ryan knew each other before the show, and that Ryan was added to the cast because the show needed a win.

And they got one! These two have been married for over a decade and have two children, Maxwell (b. 2007) and Blakesley (b. 2009)

4. Andrew Firestone and Jen Schefft

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Season Premiere: March 24, 2003
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Andrew did propose, but he and Jen broke up after several months, leaving her available to appear on the third season of The Bachelorette two years later.

5. Bob Guiney and Estella Gardinier

Season Premiere: September 24, 2003
Relationship Status: Terminated

To their credit, these two didn’t get engaged on the finale, although Bob did give Estella a promise ring to indicate that he wanted to keep dating her. Which he did until shortly after the show aired, at which point they called it quits.

6. Meredith Phillips and Ian Mckee

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Season Premiere: January 14, 2004
Relationship Status: Terminated

Meredith accepted Ian’s proposal, but they called off their engagement in February 2005.

7. Jesse Palmer and Jessica Bowlin

Season Premiere: April 7, 2004
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Jesse and Jessica didn’t get engaged, but did continue dating for a couple weeks, until they broke up in the face of the harsh reality of life after the show / having very similar names.

8. Byron Velvick and Mary Delgado

Season Premiere: September 22, 2004
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Hey, they made not have made the long haul, but they lasted longer than most couples from the show. After Byron proposed to Mary on the finale, they stayed together for another five years before ending things. In a most-likely related event, Mary was arrested for assaulting Byron — supposedly punching him in the face while intoxicated. So splitting up was definitely the right choice.

9. Jennifer Schefft and ___________

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Season Premiere: January 10, 2005
Relationship Status
: Dead On Arrival

This one never even made it out of the gate. Jennifer chose Jerry Ferris over fellow finalist John Paul Merritt, but she rejected his proposal, saying that they had no chemistry. Finally, someone willing to call themselves out on something that we audience members pick up on all the time! End of the day, it seems like Jen was just pretty over the concept of the show, already having a broken engagement from a previous season of The Bachelor.

10. Charlie O’Connell and Sarah Brice

Season Premiere: March 28, 2005
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Considering that Charlie didn’t propose in the finale, these two lasted a surprisingly long time. They dated from the show until September 2007, and then got back together in 2008, dating for another two years before breaking up permanently in 2010.

11. Travis Stork and Sarah Stone

Season Premiere: January 9, 2006
Relationship Status: Terminated

Different season, same story. Travis didn’t propose to Sarah, but the two of them kept dating…at least until the finale aired, at which point they officially called it quits.

12. Prince Lorenzo Borghese and Jennifer Wilson

Season Premiere: October 3, 2006
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Lorenzo did not propose to Jennifer, but the two of them continued dating until January 2007, when they broke up. Basically just read the last blurb I wrote and insert different dates.

13. Andrew Baldwin and Tessa Horst

Season Premiere: April 2, 2007
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Wow, we are on quite the tear here with failed relationships. Breaking with the tradition of the preceding few seasons, Andy did propose to Tessa, but the two of them called off their engagement a month after the finale, and ended their relationship altogether in September 2007.

14. Brad Womack and ___________

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Season Premiere: September 24, 2007
Relationship Status
: Dead On Arrival

Continuing the trend set by Jen Schefft on The Bachelorette, Brad elected to choose neither DeAnna Pappas nor Jenni Croft, the finalists for his season. But don’t worry, guys — he’ll be back in season fifteen!

15. Matt Grant and Shayne Lamas

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Season Premiere: March 17, 2008
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Matt and Shayne got engaged and everything, but they still only made it to July 2008, just four months after the show began airing.

16. DeAnna Pappas and Jesse Csincsak

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Season Premiere: May 19, 2008
Relationship Status
: Terminated

The return of The Bachelorette started out propitiously, as DeAnna and Jesse got engaged on the finale, and even had a wedding date set — May 9, 2009. If only they hadn’t broken up in November 2008.

(Fun fact though! DeAnna actually is married to someone that she met as a result her time on the show. His name is Stephen Stagliano and his brother, Michael, was a contestant on season five of The Bachelorette, the season right after DeAnna’s.)

17. Jason Mesnick and Melissa Rycroft

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Season Premiere: January 5, 2009
Relationship Status
: Terminated

This one’s a weird situation, because Jason is still married to a finalist from his season, just not the one he actually proposed to. He and Melissa got engaged, only for Jason to call off their engagement on the finale, and ask Molly for another chance. She gave it to him, and the two of them got engaged in October 2009, with ABC televising their wedding on March 8, 2010. They have one child together, Riley Anne Mesnick, born March 14, 2013.

So…one successful relationship built on another unsuccessful one. I guess half points? Take what you can get, Bachelor/ette.

18. Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski

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Season Premiere: May 18, 2009
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Ed and Jillian got engaged, only to break up in July 2010, a little over a year after the first episode of their season aired.

19. Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi

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Season Premiere: January 4, 2010
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Jake proposed to Vienna, but the pair didn’t even make it to the end of the year, breaking up in June 2010.

20. Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez

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Season Premiere: May 24, 2010
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Hey, these guys stayed together for a pretty long time, considering! They got engaged on the finale, and didn’t break up until November 2011. Anything over a year for this show, we might as well give the contestants a medal.

21. Brad Womack and Emily Maynard

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Season Premiere: January 3, 2011 
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Hey listen, Brad at least made progress this time around, because he actually proposed to someone instead of rejecting both his options. And she even said yes! But…they broke up while their season was still airing. They did later get back together after the finale, but broke up for good in May 2011. So close, Bradley. So close.

22. Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum

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Season Premiere: May 23, 2011
Relationship Status
: Married

I know you guys, I can barely believe it myself, but we have another success story! And it only took twenty-two combined seasons! The two of them got engaged during the finale, and married on December 1, 2012. It was of course televised, because ABC gets the chance to do this so rarely. And they’re even expecting their first child, a boy due in October of this year.

23. Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson

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Season Premiere: January 2, 2012
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Ben did end up proposing to Courtney, but I have no idea why he bothered, because the two of them broke up in February 2012 while their season was still airing. They did later get back together, only to have a final break-up in October 2012.

24. Emily Maynard and Jef Holm

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Season Premiere: May 4, 2012
Relationship Status
: Terminated

Well hello again, Emily! Back for another broken engagement? Well she got it, because after getting engaged on the finale, Emily and Jef broke up just a few months later, in October 2012.

25. Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici

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Season Premiere: January 7, 2013
Relationship Status
: Married

Are the incentives from ABC to get married getting better or what? Because this is the second marriage we’ve had in four seasons! Sean and Catherine got engaged on their finale, and then married in January 2014. Less than a year out, but looking good so far.

26. Desiree Hartsock and Chris Siegfried



Season Premiere: May 27, 2013
Relationship Status
: Engaged

Okay sure, they’re still together, but the show just aired last year, and Chris was openly Desiree’s second choice (after Brooks left), so I have a feeling they’re not gonna make it to the wedding.

27. Juan Pablo Galavis and Nikki Ferrell

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Season Premiere: January 6, 2014
Relationship Status
: Dating

Take this one with a grain of salt because Juan Pablo is the worst, but supposedly they’re still dating. I guess it’s not that big of an adjustment to your life when you don’t get engaged to the person and refuse to say ‘I love you’ or commit to a relationship in any way, shape, or form.

28. Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray



Season Premiere: May 19, 2014
Relationship Status
: Engaged

Okay, so we have twenty-seven seasons total before Andi’s that have added up to four successful relationships. (One point each for Trista & Ryan, J.P. & Ashley, and Sean & Catherine, then half a point for Jason & Melissa Molly for the old switcheroo and half a point for Des & Chris for being engaged but not actually married. No points at all for Juan Pablo, who is a garbage person.)

That all comes out to about a 15% success rate, so even though Andi and Josh are still together as of the finale, please join me in wishing her luck. (And maybe signing her up for OKCupid, because I think even they tend toward higher odds.)

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    • Alana Vincenza

      LOL TV love is dead.

      • Alana Vincenza

        ….my money is on Nick!

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Haaaa! Get it, girl.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Give me your money!!!!

      • Alana Vincenza


    • Quinn

      I agree with most of this except I honestly believe that Des and Chris are gonna be together forever-just look at their instagrams, they are totally in love!

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        ABC hopes you’re right!

    • Vera

      My mother became an avid viewer last year, and genuinely thought all contestant guys fell for the bachelorette, and all contestant girls fell for the bachelor. And that the final couples always went on to have long, happy relationships.
      So, when I googled all the names she could remember (they were serial-broadcasting it at the time, so she went through most of the cycles) and told her the final outcome for all these people (why oh why did I do that?), it broke her heart. Seriously, I’ve never seen that expression on my mother’s face and hope I never will again. She still watches… but I can see the weariness and cynicism IN HER EYES.

    • Alexandra Mitchell

      I’m pretty sure I read somewhere that more successful relationships have come out of Biggest Loser. That would be an interesting comparison to look into. I tried getting into the show, but just couldn’t. Apart from my mom and I binge watching Meredith’s season one day when NOTHING else was on, just not my speed.

    • carrie thompson

      Totally agree, but you left out Sean and Catherine in your tally in the last paragraph.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        OH NO OH NO OH NO fixing right now, thank you!

    • Elizabeth Aspen

      Thank goodness I don’t watch television anymore. Even when I did, I never saw five minutes of this stupid show. The way I see it, if you support marriage equality, watching this mockery of marriage (which, according to Republicans is supposed to be “sacred”, despite the laughable 50% hetero divorce rate), being a viewer of this garbage makes you a traitor to the cause. This show is a conservative’s wet dream.

    • Sarita

      In addition to the abysmal success rate, I think this show is terrible for it’s rather insane lack of diversity. America is such a melting pot but if you looked at this show, you’d never know it. I know they put a token Asian or Black Peron on every once in a while so as not to truly piss people off but it’s insulting!

    • name

      It’s because the shows and competition exemplify fantastical highlights of relationships, which get get people attracted, but what really keeps couples together are their abilities to face diversity, solve conflict, and put up with each others’ flaws. No on is going to display that in a competition so no one one really understands each other.

      Perfect dates, cute instagram pictures and amoral conversations are only a small portion of their lives and do not determine if people will be happy together because they have to live the other portions of life together too.

    • KE

      Two thoughts: if you look at Bachelorette seasons only, you’ve got 2.5/8 success rate (eliminating the DOA, since that didn’t really end in a relationship, it cannot count as a break up). Much higher odds than the series overall. Perhaps the women are better at selecting viable mates?

      Also, second to last paragraph says Krista instead of Trista.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Thanks for pointing that out! On both counts! Very interesting theory about the women…good call!

      • Jay

        It’s nature… Men pursue women and women choose their partner. Men are wired to pull all the dirty little tricks they can to woo women & women are wired to pick and choose their mate, the fact that women are doing a better job than their male counterparts comes as no surprise.

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