Go ahead and add Zooey Deschanel to the list of celebrity women who are willing to awesomely call out Hollywood double standards. She already made our list of celebrity women who aren’t afraid to use the word “feminist,” so this might not be that surprising. But that doesn’t make it any less refreshing. Or any less likely for me to use the phrase “You go, girl.” Which I just did. I hope you enjoyed it.
In the new August issue of InStyle magazine, Zooey addresses those pesky questions about if/when she’s going to have a baby. She recalls, “When I was married, that was the first thing people wanted to know.” Zooey and her ex-husband Ben Gibbard divorced in 2012, but that doesn’t mean people have let up on the “WHERE IS YOUR BABY? WHY HAVEN’T YOU DONE YOUR WOMANLY DUTY AND PROCREATED?” questions, something Zooey has had enough of:
“Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don’t think so. Nobody asks a guy that. And you go into a supermarket and every tabloid is like, ‘Pregnant and Alone!’ Stuck in this 1950s ideal of how a woman should live her life. That’s not something that defines me at all.”
Yep, that about sums it up. First of all, not all women want to have children, which is an acceptable decision that they shouldn’t have to explain or defend as if they’re on trial. And we shouldn’t devote segments on morning talk shows to debating whether it’s okay for them to decide that for themselves. Of course it is.
Even if women haven’t ruled out the option completely, that doesn’t mean they can predict when it’ll happen, and they certainly shouldn’t be expected to explain why it hasn’t happened. It’s also true that men — particularly celebrity men, in this case — don’t get asked about their plans for children nearly as often as women do. Also, bonus points to Zooey for nailing the “Pregnant and Alone” headline that accompanies every photo of Jennifer Aniston in existence.
Side note: Can’t you totally imagine exactly how Zooey uttered the words “I don’t think so” in that interview? It’s music to my mental ears.