Ariana Grande Got Inappropriately Nasty With Her Fans For Insulting Marilyn Monroe

Ariana Grande attending Nickelodeon Kid's Choice Awards May 2014 hair down orange dressRemember back in the day when I used to like Ariana Grande? It was a glorious time when she was focusing most of her energy on singing, something she happens to be very good at, and less on making Twitter statements, which have really been her go-to lately, and typically end with me in a facepalm.

In the past, she’s done everything from bizarrely calling out milk-drinkers as drinking ‘cow pus’, to announcing a duet with Chris Brown, a man who’s proven himself violent so many times that I’m surprised we haven’t all given up on his music by now. But this time she’s turning her ire on her own fans, weirdly enough, scolding them pretty harshly for their negative response to this tweet that she put up in celebration of Marilyn Monroe‘s birthday. (She would’ve been eighty-eight on Sunday.)

We’ve pointed out before that Marilyn doesn’t set the best example for young people — or any people, for that matter — and it seems like Ariana’s fans tended to agree with us. Not all of them, but some of them were disappointed that Ariana was looking to her for inspiration. Totally valid opinion to have, whether or not you agree with it. And regardless, you’d think that Ariana would cut her fans some slack and realize that she’s not going to agree with all of them all the time. But nope.

In response to the backlash she received for putting up the photo, Ariana crafted a response of her own, which she put up on TwitLonger. It’s since been deleted, but here’s the full text:

“so much hate for celebrating Marilyn’s spirit on her birthday. I adore her work and have compassion for her inner sadness that she covered up on a daily basis that assholes like you made her feel in the first place!! judging her for her  wildly rumored personal life (which is truly no one else’s business) is only a distraction from her talent, beauty, comedic genius and effervescent spirit…. it always breaks my heart to see people say such terrible things about people they’ve never met / don’t really know the one hundred percent truth about. so today, I choose to celebrate the beautiful parts of marilyn. we should only and always focus on the beautiful things… because what we focus on expands….. which is why I feel for the people who focus on hate…. because that’s all you have to give. and I truly do feel sorry for you because when you’ve been dead for 50 some odd years…… nobody will be wishing you a happy birthday.”

Girl, what? We’re covering a lot of ground here, but the main thing is that you call your fans assholes and insinuate that it was people like them who made Marilyn make the choices she did. Yikes! If you’re really trying to focus on the positive, then why do you need to call people out at all for disagreeing with you? You know the exact same amount about her that they do, you’ve just drawn different conclusions, so why you gotta speculate that no one will care about your fans fifty years after they’re dead?

That’s a pretty ice cold thing to say to people who A. are fans of yours and B. were expressing an opinion just like you.

(Photo: Adriana M. Barraza / WENN.com)

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    • JenH1986

      We should only focus on beautiful things? So we should ignore ugly things? Is that part of her pissy tirade?

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        I don’t even know anymore with her.

    • mich_nicole

      Im sorry, so she is insinuating that she actually knew Marilyn and that “street walking” requires talent? hmm…

      • Penelope

        lmao “street walking”

      • hedy

        Oh, calling a woman a whore simply because you dislike her, how progressive and so not misogynistic.

    • Elizabeth Aspen

      I’ll never understand why anyone idolizes Marilyn Monroe. She wasn’t the first beautiful dysfunctional woman in show biz and yet women get tattoos of her face, Mariah Carey pays a million bucks for her piano. I don’t get it. I’m sure she was a nice person, but not such a great role model.

      • Zelda Z.

        I would guess that Mariah’s sympathy with Marilyn probably stems from the fact that they both grew up as outsiders (for different reasons) and had issues with their fathers. And you don’t have to be perfect to be a role model. Anyone can learn from the positives and negatives of someone else’s life. You forget that MM was popular in the 50′s and didn’t live with the benefits of feminism which came much later. Its very easy to criticize when you live in a completely different society than she did.

      • Nbl

        Yea, that’s bullshit. There were many female celebrities during that time that made it clear they were strong, independent women. The sad truth was MM spent her life (and money) becoming a sex symbol and she hated herself for it. I see nothing to admire in someone who would rather stay popular and beautiful rather than happy.

      • Zelda Z.

        Like who? I bet you don’t know one damn thing from that era. Just about every actress was treated like cattle by the misogynist pigs at the head of every single studio. MM was the only actress who fought (and won) the right to have director approval and started her own production company. And what you posted is complete BS and not supported by fact. Her money was sucked up by the coterie of vampires firmly entrenched around her which included the Strasbergs. Have you ever heard of the Actors Studio? I’m sure those people didn’t work for free. As for judging the fact that she wasn’t “happy”; when YOU survive child abandonment, molestation, abject poverty, the misogyny of the 50s, etc… you can get on your high horse and pontificate to others.

    • CMJ

      What’s weird is she’s defending someone she doesn’t even know….

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Exaccccctly.

      • Zelda Z.

        So you have to know someone personally to defend them? By that twisted logic, why care about what happens in other parts of the world since you don’t live there?

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        We were pointing out the hypocrisy in her statement.

      • Zelda Z.

        Where’s the hypocrisy? You quote her as saying that she doesn’t like to hear people say terrible things about others when you don’t know the truth and then she tells off people for telling her what she can and cannot write on her twitter feed. Seems to me she can wish a happy b-day to who ever she likes without the thought police giving her a lecture about it.

      • Johnstone

        Because she herself says “it always breaks my heart to see people say such terrible things about
        people they’ve never met / don’t really know the one hundred percent
        truth about” when she herself HAS NEVER MET MONROE. Hypocritical much.

    • Nbl

      I will never understand the female fascination with Marilyn Monroe. There are so many more beautiful and aspiring actresses of that era. My all time fav is Maureen O’Hara.

      • Penelope

        She’s (arguably) the most glamorous woman in American history. At least that’s what media/marketing wants us to think. She’s become a brand. Every girl wants to be as desirable and beautiful as Marilyn the bombshell. I mean she pulled two Kennedy’s after all. But I doubt Ariana Grande, or anyone younger than her, even knows as much. They just like the glittery package. Ariana claims Marilyn had a “wildly rumored personal life”. Umm, those weren’t rumors, little miss. When it comes to idolizing Marilyn Monroe, the herd mentality of women under the age of 40 is unbelievable.

      • Nbl

        To me, that’s the saddest part. They idolize her based on her looks not the person she was. By all accounts, she was miserable in the life she had and HATED being known only for her looks. She’s probably weeping at her cult today. The same could be said about Audrey Hepburn. Today people only see the glamorous woman from Breakfast at Tiffany’s. They don’t look up to her because she helped smuggle refugees out of Nazi occupied Holland, or that she spent her life as a humanitarian.

      • Penelope

        I do admit that I adore Audrey for her style (her more understated casual fashions a la black pants & turtleneck in Funny Face), but it isn’t blind adoration. I am aware of her causes and contributions. Which many Marilyn fans cannot say. Ask someone, with a black and white print of Marilyn on their new apartment wall, what her birth name was. Then wait for the blank stare.

      • Nbl

        I’ll agree that she had great style but if you read about her personal life, you’ll love her so much more. She truly was inspiring.

      • Penelope

        I have! I am well-versed in all Ms. Hepburn had to offer.

      • Sunshine

        How do you know the majority of those stories aren’t rumors who only came to light after her death, when she could no longer defend herself? Were you there? Did you receive first hand accounts? Or do you base this “knowledge” on the vultures who exploited and keep exploiting MM, as the only means of staying relevant and in the public eye…

      • Penelope

        Sleeping with the president, and his brother … two married men … were not wild rumors. Those facts are sustained.

      • Sunshine

        By who? All parties are dead and besides the president’s B-day party photo op (an event she attended with her ex-father in law) there is no documentation of any of them together. So please tell me, by who are these facts “sustained”.

      • Sunshine

        That should read, please tell me by who are these facts sustained?

        OOps…

        (By the way, thanks for reminding me the Kennedys were married. A shame they never remembered that fact themselves, since those brothers, like their father before them, were the worst kind of skirt chasers. Its amusing to me how a family full of such crooked and dishonest people, who made their money illegally and had ties to the mob, get treated like American royalty, while poor Marilyn, who never hurt anyone, gets treated like garbage. But maybe MM should count her blessings that she was lucky enough to die in her house and not left to drown in a car or beaten to death with a golf club. Those Kennedy men have such a way with women.)

      • Sonny Jerg

        but shes not good looking though………im not kicking her out of bed but im not inviting her in either

      • Olivia

        Right Marilyn was just a sex symbol really but Audrey Hepburn who was in her era I think around it atleast she was smart and kind and just all around good hearted

    • Cate

      Another dumb over paid pop tart making really dumb comments. Spare us AG.

    • Isabelle

      I completely agree with what Ariana said. Marilyn was mentally ill was she not?

    • Kel

      I think it’s odder that people would get on her ass for wishing Marilyn Monroe. Who cares?

    • Reese

      I get both sides. But lets remember that Ariana is also young. Some people around her just need to teach her how to let things like that roll off her back because when she responds it will always make her look bad regardless.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        She’s twenty, though! At what point does she need to start being responsible for the things that come out of her mouth?

      • some guy

        would anyone really care if she wasnt famous though. makes you think.

    • Zelda Z.

      I agree with Ariana. Its a free world and she should be able to wish happy birthday to whoever she likes without having to listen to others moan about it. As for Marilyn Monroe not being a good role model, exactly what do you base that on? Unsubstantiated GOSSIP! So she had issues (who doesn’t?) but she did overcome great poverty and a horrible childhood to make something of herself. And instead of being the ultimate party girl, she spent her time developing her craft and educating herself. Despite her stature, she lived in a simple home and wasn’t materialistic. Yeah, I don’t see what there is to look up to there. So much better to look up to modern day narcissistic celebrities who only care about themselves and nothing more.

    • some guy

      What did Marilyn Monroe do anyway that everyone is so mad about.

      • Sunshine

        She had the absolute gall of being an original.

        Envy is such a pointless emotion…

      • Isabelle

        Not to mention she was also rumored to be bipolar and I feel like her actions as a result are disliked by people. I get the impression MM was just sad or lonely and had troubles. I really don’t understand why they would hate her, especially after all these years.

    • some guy

      Seems like the author of this article is slut shaming Marilyn Monroe or something, i’m not sure I agree with your blogger. You should probably be more specific about what your objections to her are because you come off as kind of sexist.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Could you cite one or more quotes of mine that make me come off as sexist?

      • some guy

        No, i’m just not really sure what your point is at all so I can only assume your problem with Marilyn Monroe is that she was a sex symbol.

        Why is Marilyn Monroe a bad person to tweet about?

        Kind of seems like this Ariana person is right on the money.

      • some guy

        Also are these people really her fans or just a group of people on twitter who like to create controversy out of non-controversial tweets?

        Kind of seems like someones real fans wouldn’t have much of an opinion on way on another w/ Marilyn Monroe.

        Anyway slut shaming is a messed up practice, if “We’ve pointed out before that Marilyn doesn’t set the best example for young people — or any people, for that matter —” isn’t slut shaming you should mention what it is that you find so bad about her.

      • FemelleChevalier

        The life she led isn’t exactly a secret, so the writer didn’t elaborate on the facts. Because if Alexis did, she might seem like she’s “judging” and “slut-shaming”, so she left it at that. Try googling Marilyn Monroe or something, or asking someone older.

      • Zelda Z.

        Not everything posted on the internet is true and tawdry gossip sells more biographies than boring truth. I’m sure someone could have written a biography full of nice little facts like how when MM was filming How to Marry Millionaire and Betty Grable had to leave the set because her kid got sick, MM was the only person from the film cast or studio to call her the next day to see how the child was doing. But who would have wanted to read this type of thing? All bottom feeders who peddle gossip by trade knows that the more outrageous the story, the more interest you get.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        I linked in that very sentence to an article that can explain that to you in depth.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        This post wasn’t about a problem I had with Marilyn Monroe — it was about a problem I had with Ariana Grande. My own person feelings about Marilyn don’t figure into whether or not it’s rude of Ariana to call her fans assholes.

    • FemelleChevalier

      Hmmm. I don’t follow her so I don’t know how her fans have worded their criticisms (social media can be cruel). I can’t really comment on the context of her… intense rant without proper insight, just that there are different ways she could’ve said those things if she’s so passionate about Marilyn. You know, without insulting people in the process.

      Be a lady, Ariana.

      • some guy

        TBF I think people should relax, you are kind of an asshole if you bother some person on twitter about a Marilyn Monroe tweet they made; so I question whether or not the people she called assholes are actually her fans.

      • FemelleChevalier

        I think it depends on how people have worded their criticisms.

      • some guy

        Very true, but it seems like an innocent tweet I’m not quite sure what the criticism is.

      • FemelleChevalier

        I meant the people who criticized Ariana’s tweet. I think I depends on what they said. If it’s valid criticism, then the intensity of Ariana’s tweet is unwarranted and, yes, pretty much insulting.

        If they really are “assholes”, then I still think that Ariana could’ve worded her own criticism better. But at least it’s not unwarranted and just plain “unladylike”.

      • some guy

        I guess, i’m just operating on the opinion that you are an “asshole” for criticizing someone for tweeting “Happy Birthday”.

      • FemelleChevalier

        Like I said, it depends on how they worded their criticisms towards Marilyn. By that, I meant if it’s disrespectful or not. If they (the people) are just stating facts diplomatically, then Ariana’s tweet/intense rant is pretty much unwarranted.

      • some guy

        On a side note, is it really that important for women to be “ladylike”?

      • FemelleChevalier

        It’s Ariana’s own motto. I’m just reiterating it because it seems like she’s not following her own philosophy.

      • some guy

        Fair enough, I didn’t know that.

      • some guy

        It’s like if I tweeted “Happy Birthday Kurt Cobain #misunderstood #innocentrebel”. Should I be criticized because he did drugs and killed himself?

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        It’s not so much that you should be as that you COULD be. Her fans were within their rights to feel differently about Marilyn than Ariana did.

      • Zelda Z.

        How so? If those “fans” dislike MM, they should post their hate on their OWN twitter feeds and not on hers.

    • some guy

      Like lets be honest if anyone cared about what we had to say they would probably blog about how stupid we are too.

    • Emily Potter

      Cause she knew Marilyn and her life story right lol
      It’s true there’s no point in hating someone you don’t (or hate someone at all for that matter) but the same goes for idolising someone. Out of all famous people in existence to idolize too!!!!!! Whatever to each his own I guess.

    • hedy

      Um, I don’t see how Ariana was insinuating that Marilyn was a “role model” in her tweet. She simply wished her a happy birthday. Where’s the harm in that? How were her fans justified in attacking her for it? I didn’t realize that being perfect was a prerequisite for being admired. How come no one gets up in arms over dead rock stars who did drugs and treated women horribly being celebrated? I generally think Ariana is a twit, but I have no choice but to agree with her on this one. Her “fans’” reactions (assuming they weren’t trolls) were completely unwarranted.

    • ,_.

      OMG ARIANA GRANDE IS FUCKING FAKE AND I FUCKING HATE HER DIE AZZ

    • Zenia

      Fantastic closing argument. Perfectly said. I despise it when people say “you’re so negative, I’m positive” and it’s like… That’s negative of you to say I’m negative, which means you’re not really positive. There’s too much fake positivity and real negativity, not enough true positivity, gratitude, or awareness.