If there’s one thing we can rely on in this crazy world, it’s Gwyneth Paltrow having absolutely no awareness of the real world around her. And nowhere is that more evident than in her response to the working moms controversy she stirred up.
No matter how much time passes, or what changes around us, she’ll always assume that everyone on earth is exactly like her — we all spend about $60 a day on four leaves of organically-sourced kale, come up with artsy euphemisms for our breakups, and agree that Hollywood actresses have a much more difficult job than the average working mom.
As you may recall, Gwyneth made some very troubling statements a while back during an interview with E! News in which she attempted to explain the difficulties of balancing motherhood and an acting career:
“It’s much harder for me. I feel like I set it up in a way that makes it difficult because … for me, like if I miss a school run, they are like, ‘Where were you?’ I don’t like to be the lead so I don’t [have] to work every day, you know, I have little things that I like and obviously I want it to be good and challenging and interesting and be with good people and that kind of thing … I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set.”
Clearly, people had some issues with that, as it suggested that being paid millions and millions of dollars to work several months a year while skilled, highly paid nannies care for your children is somehow more difficult than working one or more 9-5 jobs with limited resources and sometimes prohibitively expensive options available as far as child-care.
But don’t worry you guys, Gwyneth gets all that. Because little did you know, she’s in exactly the same boat! Totes can’t believe you misinterpreted her words before. That’s on you, buddy.
“A few weeks ago during an interview, I was asked why I have only worked on one film a year since having children. My answer was this: Film work takes one away from home and requires 12-14 hours a day, making it difficult to be the one to make the kids their lunch, drive them to school, and put them to bed. So I have found it easier on my family life to make a film the exception, and my 9-5 job the rule. This somehow was taken to mean I had said a 9-5 job is easier, and a lot of heat was thrown my way, especially by other working mothers who somehow used my out-of-context quote as an opportunity to express feelings (perhaps projected) on the subject.”
Okay I have to step in here for a second. First of all, you’re complaining because your job takes you away from your kids, which you don’t like. That’s a perfectly understandable (and pretty universal) way to feel, but you also have to acknowledge that you have zero concerns about being able to actually support your kids, so any thoughts you contribute to the conversation are gonna be
slightly completely out of touch.
“As the mommy wars rage on, I am constantly perplexed and amazed by how little slack we cut each other as women. We see disapproval in the eyes of other mothers when we say how long we breastfed (Too long? Not long enough?), or whether we have decided to go back to work versus stay home. Is it not hard enough to attempt to raise children thoughtfully, while contributing something, or bringing home some (or more) of the bacon? Why do we feel so entitled to opine, often so negatively, on the choices of other women?” she asked. “Perhaps because there is so much pressure to do it all, and do it all well all at the same time (impossible).”
You have the luxury of choosing between an acting job, a 9-5 job, both, or even neither. If you’re not around for your kids, someone else is, which automatically takes away probably the biggest concern for actual working mothers. You may be working and you may be a mother, but you’re not exactly middle-of-the-bell-curve as far as working mothers, so maybe pump the brakes on acting like the world’s foremost expert on that topic.
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