Gabourey Sidibe Calls Out Everyone Who’s Shocked By Her Confidence In A Flawless Speech

Gabourey Sidibe QVC Red Carpet February 28 2014 Los Angeles California Black Lace Dress

Last night, at the Gloria Awards and Gala hosted by the Ms. FoundationGabourey Sidibe gave a speech about self-confidence so fab that I vote “yes” to her presidency. Okay, I know that she isn’t currently running for president. It’s just that her points were so moving that, mid-way through, I got distracted and started mentally organizing a campaign and collecting donations. But, once I snapped back to reality, I was nothing short of impressed.

Among the group of speech-givers at the gala, which also included comedians Chelsea Handler and Amy Schumer, Gabby stood out for calling out every person who asks her, “How are you so confident,” when they really mean to add to the end “…ya know, looking the way you do?” The full speech is sort of long and so worth the read. But, if you want the microwave recipe instead of the conventional oven one, here’s my favorite part:

“One of the first things people usually ask me is, “Gabourey, how are you so confident?” I hate that. I always wonder if that’s the first thing they ask Rihanna when they meet her. ‘RiRi! How are you so confident?’ Nope. No. No. But me? They ask me with that same incredulous disbelief every single time. ‘You seem so confident! How is that?”

Wow, talk about well-said. If I’m going to be shocked by anything, it’s how flawlessly she articulated a great many people’s tendency to discriminate against her, even when they aren’t trying to. Because, honestly, why should it be that Gabby’s confidence comes as a bigger surprise to us than that of a “conventionally attractive” person, like Rihanna? Actually, why should anyone’s confidence come as a surprise to us? We all deserve to feel confident in ourselves without the idea that other people didn’t initially expect us to.

Gabby continued, offering up the best damn explanation there is for why she dares to show up confidently.

“It’s my good time, and my good life, despite what you think of me. I live my life, because I dare. I dare to show up when everyone else might hide their faces and hide their bodies in shame. I show up because I’m an asshole, and I want to have a good time.”

Honestly, you guys. Does she deserve an eternal round of applause, or what?

(Photo: Adrianna M. Barazza/WENN)

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    • Elizabeth Aspen

      She is definitely my new favorite asshole :-)

      • djphoenix

        Why this comment?

      • guest

        I think she’s referring back to when Ms. Sibide called herself an “asshole” in that last quote.

      • djphoenix

        Thanks. Got it. It seemed like a strange statement without the context.

      • Olivia Wilson

        Ditto.

    • Lindsey Conklin

      eternal applause. yes.

      • Olivia Wilson

        Wooooh!

    • djphoenix

      Gabourey does not get credit, but she cleared the way for Nupita to shine today. I love Gabby’s confidence and talent. She is born to Nigerian parents, and is the first African female to gain critical acclaim for her stellar performance in “Precious”. Big ups to her.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Do you mean Lupita?

      • St Martyr

        What are you talking about?? She is from Senegal!!? Dear god she even mentioned it in her speech AND her name is Senegalese!!!

      • djphoenix

        Thanks for the correction. My point is that we did not have any high profile African actresses in American cinema before Gabby. Her coming first opened the nation up to the idea. I am in no way trying to say that she looks like Lupita, etc. Calm down people!

      • M_G

        With all due respect, I take issue with this sentence: “My point is that we did not have any high profile African actresses in American cinema before Gabby.” Just of the top of my head: Halle Berry, Hattie McDaniel, Dorothy Dandridge, Angela Bassett, Viola Davis……these are all famous actresses who where stars in American cinema long before Gabourey Sidibe came on the scene. I love Gabourey and I think she is a phenomenal talent who is definitely helping to re-define the Hollywood landscape, but it’s wrong to dismiss the incredibly talented black actresses who came before her.

      • djphoenix

        The operative word is “African”. I was not speaking about African American women. I am an African American who has studied and worked in the field. I am well aware of all of these very beautiful and talented women, and our history in American cinema. You actually prove my point. We are talking about two different things. Respect given. Peace.

      • M_G

        Gabourey was born in Brooklyn. Does that not make her African American as well? I am still not sure what your point is….

      • djphoenix

        She may very well have been, but she identifies herself as African. In her most recent speech she spoke about being of Senegalese and was introduced to the world in this way. Look, if you don’t understand my larger point, then I don’t know what else to say. Peace.

      • M_G

        Okay! Thank you for the clarification.

      • djphoenix

        Peace and respect!

      • St Martyr

        And she did NOT clear the way for Lupita. AT ALL. What are you smoking??

    • http://plakatyfilmowe.blogspot.com/ Mierzwiak

      Honey, you can be the most confident person on the planet, but being that fat is unhealthy AND disgusting.

      • Olivia Wilson

        Pray tell, how do you know what the state of her health is?

      • http://plakatyfilmowe.blogspot.com/ Mierzwiak

        Consequences of overweight are the same for everyone, she’s not special.

      • J_Doe5686

        Let her deal with it. You do you!

      • markmywords

        Because non-overweight people never get sick, right? She is special, because people are interested in what she has to say. I think you’re jealous and can’t handle that a person, who’s less attractive than you in your own standards, gets more attention than you do. So you put her down to make yourself feel better.

      • Isabelle

        I admire what she has to say as well and she is a role model for that same reason. I also don’t agree with commenting on other peoples. Bodies because no one can tell you what is beautiful, just what they think is beautiful. Having said that, we shouldn’t be encouraging being morbidly obese if that is a message women take in an effort to feel good about themselves. Being that overweight is going to catch up to the person regardless of their health now,

      • http://plakatyfilmowe.blogspot.com/ Mierzwiak

        There’s a reason why obesity is called a disease of XXI century, and by saying things like that she sens a very bad message for young people. Of course being confident about yourself is probably one of the most important thing in our lives, but come on! “It doesn’t matter there’s a bigger risk of heart attack for you, it doesn’t matter if you have diabetes and it doesn’t matter you can’t catch your breath after running for 20 seconds (assuming you still can’t run), because you just need to love yourself!”.

        NO.

      • djphoenix

        The discussion is about her speech and her sense of self-confidence. What is so amazing about her sense of self, is that despite negative comments from people like you, she still likes herself as she is. This does not mean that she does not care about her health or is telling young people not to care. Your comment is really not relevant to the discussion at hand. Her saying, I like myself despite my body image is actually a very positive message to send to young people.

      • FemelleChevalier

        I think you’re mixing correlation and causation.

        Yes, obesity is a problem that has potential health complications, but weight in a medical standpoint is not always black and white. There are so many variables and circumstances to consider in determining who is healthy and who is not, and any medical professional who says otherwise is rather biased.

        If weight is a health risk in an individual, then it’s problem that should be corrected in a healthy way. If it’s not, then I (personally) don’t see how it should be a problem aside from vanity.

      • M_G

        Uh huh. Now, could you please point me to the section in her speech wherein she promotes obesity and/or unhealthy eating habits? Because I definitely missed that part. I assume, all things being fair, that you likewise condemn actors/actresses/public figures who smoke? Who do drugs? Who party hard with alcohol? Who break speeding laws? Who tan too extensively? Because they are all putting their health in danger, too. I mean, again, I am assuming you do call them out, because otherwise you’d just be fat-shaming someone, which of course would make you an asshole.

      • djphoenix

        I don’t know what you are talking about. I never said that she promoted obsesity or unhealthy eating in her speech. Perhaps you are referring to someone else’s post.

      • M_G

        Yes, that comment was in response to Mierzwiak’s post, not yours…..

      • markmywords

        Who are you to judge?

      • http://plakatyfilmowe.blogspot.com/ Mierzwiak

        She’s a public person and I have a right to make an opinion about her words. You’ve got a problem with that?

      • djphoenix

        Sure, you have a right to your opinion. We can also respond when you make your public statements about a public person.

      • J_Doe5686

        Go home, party pooper. You’re jealous!

      • djphoenix

        Your comment is disgusting and relative. You know nothing about her state of health, and you may be disgusted by her appearance, but a lot of people, including her, are not. It is funny, as beautiful as Lupita is, she talked about the fact that some people find her skin color to be unattractive, or in your words, disgusting, none of which has stopped either of these talented young women winning. I continue to pray that they both are lifted up. Your statements say more about you than Gabby, who is fabulous and living her life fully. I’ve seen her on 86th Street in New York on a few occasions walking and moving around with ease like most other people on the street and she appeared to be not only healthy, but also comfortable in her own skin. Can you say the same about yourself, or most other people for that matter.

      • http://plakatyfilmowe.blogspot.com/ Mierzwiak

        Why are you bringing Lupita to the table and mixing racism (!) with my critique of Gabourey’s overweight? Color of your skin won’t kill you. Obesity can.

        I have nothing else to say.

      • djphoenix

        Good. I’m glad you have nothing else to say. My statement is not about racism. It is about the fact that people’s likes and dislikes are relative — a matter of opinion, not fact. I used Lupita as an example because many people around the world find her to be beautiful, yet some people (who were actually from her village did not think so). What one person finds to be unattractive or “disgusting”, might be beautiful to someone else. Let’s be honest, you were trying to throw shade at Gabby. You don’t give a damn about her health. Had you cared, you would not have described her as being disgusting. I copied your statement here: “Honey, you can be the most confident person on the planet, but being that fat is unhealthy AND disgusting.”

    • J_Doe5686

      I fell in love with this girl!

    • Deborah Beaudoin-Zaki

      She is an inspiration to all young people who need a role model for confidence and determination. You go girl and I hope Hollywood provides you with a lot more rolls so we can continue watching your talented acting. Best wishes.

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    • Penelope

      “I show up because I’m an asshole, and I want to have a good time.” This is going to be my new tagline.

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