There are a lot of things that Chris Martin will take responsibility for, but he has to draw the line somewhere, okay? Which is why, even as he’s saying that the divorce from Gwyneth Paltrow is his fault, he still won’t take the blame for coming up with that ridiculous euphemism for their breakup — ‘conscious uncoupling‘.
I mean granted, it didn’t really come up in his interview with BBC Radio 1, airing today in Britain, but I think it says a lot that a man who’s ready and willing to take the fault for the collapse of a ten-year marriage still shies away from admitting guilt for signing off on the most-ridiculed divorce announcement in the history of ever. Just saying.
“About two years ago I was a mess, really, because I can’t enjoy the things that we are good at and I can’t enjoy the great things around me because I’m burdened by this. I’ve got to not blame anyone else and make some changes.”
It’s not 100% clear what he’s talking about, but as someone who’s had bouts of depression myself, that’s what this vaguely sounds like to me.
“I wouldn’t use the word breakdown — this was more a realization about trying to grow up, basically. If you can’t open yourself up, you can’t appreciate the wonder inside. So you can be with someone very wonderful, but because of your own issues you cannot let that be celebrated in the right way.”
Okay, I can see the intelligence in that, but it also sounds word-for-word like something Gwyneth might have taught him to say. “Baaaabe I feel like you never celebrate me anymore! I only had two sniffs of burned kale all day and you haven’t thrown me a single party!”
“If you don’t let love really in, then you can’t really give it back. You’ve got to open yourself up to love and if you really do, of course, it will be painful at some times, but then it will be great at some point.”
But regardless of my feelings on the matter, Chris seems to be doing pretty well for himself at the moment, so that’s great to see. Just getting his head right and whatnot, getting back to working out regularly and releasing new music, in the form of the newest Coldplay album ‘Ghost Stories’.
“I think in life everyone needs to be broken in some way. I think everyone in their life goes through challenges, whether it’s love or money, kids or illness. You have to really not run away from that stuf. Life throws these colorful challenges at you … what we decided to do on ‘Ghost Stories’ was to really be honest about it and say, this is what’s been happening.”
If you’re trying to get me to buy your album in order to get a behind-the-scenes look at your relationship with Gwyneth Paltrow, Chris, that’s not gonna — oh who am I kidding? That’s 100% gonna work on me. Well played.