Kirsten Dunst Has Never Been Groped By A Director Because She’s Never Asked For It

Kirsten Dunst attending Australian premiere of Anchorman 2 November 2013Good for Kirsten Dunst, honestly. In an industry where so many of her peers are constantly being inappropriately propositioned or even full-on sexually assaulted, she’s never had a problem with that. And do you know why? Because she’s never asked for it. What a novel concept! She’s so much smarter than victims!

In a W Magazine piece that came out today, Kirsten was asked by the interviewer if she’s ever worked with a director that she didn’t agree with, and she answered:

“I have, and it takes all the fun out of what you do. You just get through it instead of having a meaningful experience.”

Sure, yeah. That’s a diplomatic response to the question. Didn’t throw anybody under the bus or anything, which is very diplomatic of you. But wouldn’t you maybe like to add some victim-shaming to your answer? It would sure spice up this interview!

Interviewer: What if a director pounces on you while working? Has that ever happened?

Kirsten: No [laughs]. I don’t give off that vibe. I think that you court that stuff, and to me it’s crossing a boundary that would hinder the trust in your working relationship.

Ah yes. So kind of you to make sexual predators’ argument for them! People who are pounced on by directors — or anyone! — receive that kind of attention because they were asking for it. Usually out loud or in a note you might have forgotten you passed. Probably something saying, “Can you and I engage in activities without my consent? Check ‘yes’ or ‘no’!” Because assault is fun! And not enough people get to do it! Only like 58% of people who court ‘that stuff’ actually get to engage in it, and you can’t argue with numbers that I just made up.

But while I’m sure there are some militant feminists (the ones who get to wear the cool army jackets!) who are gonna get really haired up (pun intended!) about this, I’m not one of them — OBVIOUSLY. Because I totally get it! You and I are on the same brainpage, Kirsten!

For example, I was never really interested in going to treatment for depression, like you did in 2008, so what I did was I just made sure I wasn’t courting those dark thoughts! And that is a thing that people could do, ergo I never got them and I didn’t have to go get help! Same thing with alcoholism; I just wasn’t interested! Some people might say that I myself have little to do control over arbitrary things like sexual assault, the disease of addiction, and clinical depression, but you and I know better, don’t we Kirsten? We’re so smart to have avoided these pesky little pitfalls that other idiots can’t seem to avoid!

We know that if something bad happens to you, it’s either because you were wearing a low-cut shirt or you weren’t wishing hard enough. (But probably both.)


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    • jubies

      She doesn’t seem like a super nice girl… Now she’s applying the ‘takes two to tango’ theory to unwanted physical contact!? ? Maybe she’s just dumb…

    • Elizabeth Aspen

      She worded her answer in not such a smart way, but I get what she’s saying and as usual, you’re over-reacting. And the reporter probably didn’t mean literally “pouncing”, probably meant ‘hit on’. She never said anyone was “asking” for anything. What she most likely meant by women who “court” that kind of thing is that there ARE some women who DO give off the vibe that if “pounced upon” or pressured, they might not resist. Those women are insecure and not confident in their own abilities. Then there are other women who do not give off that vibe and let a man know just by her attitude that she won’t take any crap. Men who are up to no good can smell low self-esteem a mile away, and will take advantage of that if given the opportunity. If they know up-front you’re a woman with high standards and good self esteem, they’re gonna leave you alone.

      Barring anyone actually being pinned down on the floor and raped, a woman has an obligation to speak up for herself and say no. If she gives in to pressure, then that’s her choice and maybe she’ll learn a lesson, albeit the hard way. Don’t get on Kirsten’s case because she has high self-esteem and knows exactly who she is. And don’t take everything so literally.

      • M_G

        I get what you’re trying to say, but the problem with wording it the way you did is that you’re implying that it is okay for men to pounce upon “weak, low self esteem” women because they won’t resist, and that is a heinous stance. Kirsten, I’m sure, didn’t intentionally mean for her response to come out like that, but I think the overall point of this article is that it’s not okay to make any kind of assumption and act on it aggressively because you think you can get away with it.

      • Isabelle

        Of course that’s not okay. But people need to take of themselves and try to spot a creep when he’s there

      • M_G

        Being able to spot a creep isn’t the issue here (though I agree with you that it’s important). The issue is whether or not the creep feels he’s entitled to something based on his/her perception of the other person. And the answer is, emphatically, no.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        You said it better than I ever could have!

      • M_G


    • J_Doe5686

      I thought she was smarter.

    • Napoleon

      Gross. It has been said that Hollywood has a circle of people which seem to encompass a “blue shield” of sorts. They protect each other when these kinds of scandals happen. So far, these celebrities have proven these rumors to be true.

    • Melanie

      I think this article is completely distasteful. I understand that what she said sounds problematic (even though I feel that it was not her intention to victim-shame, probably interpreted the question in a wrong manner), but mention her problem with depression and alcoholism as an offense in response sounds much more problematic to me. We can’t try to defend a point of view by attacking and being offensive, especially using such delicate problems like depression and alcoholism to do so, but that’s just my humble opinion.

      • Melanie

        by the way, the interviewer was Sofia Coppola.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        If you read my point carefully, you can see that my stance is that she doesn’t deserve to have suffered from depression or alcoholism, just as other women don’t deserve to have suffered from abuse. Nobody courts either of those scenarios — they just happen.