Don’t you hate it when you start a relationship by cheating with a married guy and then he cheats on you in return? Aren’t you so totally shocked by that? Well maybe you aren’t, but Tori SpellingÂ most definitely is.
You see, when Tori first met her current husbandÂ Dean McDermottÂ in 2005 on the set of the TV movieÂ Mind Over Murder, they were both involved in pesky little marriages to other people. Tori was with Charlie Shanian, whom she’d been married to since 2004, and although he didn’t know it at the time, Dean was coming to the end of his twelve year marriage with Mary Jo Eustace. But that didn’t bother either of them, as they reportedly began their affair the very first night they met and were married one month after Tori’s divorce was finalized? That’s classy.
It’s also why I’m having a lot of difficulty rustling up any sympathy for Tori in the midst of this new cheating scandal. You can tune in to watch it onÂ Lifetime in all its cringe-worthy glory if you’d like, or you can just listen to Tori talk about it to Us Weekly. Either way, you’re gonna be biting your tongue to avoid saying, “I told you so”.
“He was my soulmate, but he completely broke my heart.Â It makes you not trust anything that’s happened in your relationship. [...]Â He cheated on me. One of my worst fears came true. On some level I never thoughtÂ it would really happen.”
I understand that being a fear, but on some level, you must have always known this was a possibility, right? I mean, the moment you started your affair, you had categorical proof that this guy would cheat on someone he was married to, so what’s up? He knew you for ONE DAY when he threw away his decade-long marriage and the child he was in the process of adopting, so it’s hard to act indignant on your behalf. Not to be unfeeling, but you knew what you were getting into.
Apparently he denied hooking up with Emily Goodhand at first, then admitted he kissed her, then finally to the whole thing:
“He sounded remorseful. He sounded like a husband who had gotten caught. He took full responsibility.”
He acknowledged that ‘he had hit rock bottom’ and needed to go get help, so he went and did that, although Tori won’t confirm that he sought treatment for sex addiction. But even now that Dean’s back, she’s not really clear on the direction of their marriage.
â€śI donâ€™t know if my marriage can be saved, [but] you donâ€™t stop loving someone because they do something really bad to you.Â I owe this relationship more than just saying something horrible happened and dismissing it. I need to figure out if he can change. He has to take responsibility for what he did and part of owning up to that is being honest about it.”
Alright girl, you do you. I’m familiar with the saying ‘onceÂ a cheater always a cheater’, but I don’t know how the adage ‘twice a cheater ends’, so godspeed, I guess?
“I feel so judged, but it’s not black and white.”
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