Now That Jill Duggar Is Engaged, She Can Finally Hold Hands With Her Future Husband

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard from 19 Kids and CountingIf you’re wondering why the birds are all chirping so romantically today, it’s because one of the Duggar children got engaged! I’m referring of course to Jill Duggar, 22, the fourth oldest child from the 19 Kids And Counting family, who just got engaged to Derick Dillard.

As you may be aware, this is an extremely conservative family with some incredibly intense views on courtship. For example, for Jill and Derick to even walk around together, they needed to be accompanied by two chaperones, Jill’s sisters Jana, 24,and Joy, 16. (And ancient old Jana has some ‘splaining to do, right? Because her younger sister got engaged before her. Time is ticking away, you’re already in your early twenties!!!!)

Jill’s first clue that the proposal was happening was when Jana and Joy dropped back to give them some privacy, which should have been a warning sign, because Satan is everywhere, but she says she didn’t notice. Then Derick walked her by a park bench, where a stranger asked if he could sing the couple a love song. ”By the second verse, I knew the song was about Derick and me,” Jill told People. My goodness Jill, aren’t you sharp.

More musicians arrived, and Derick took a knee and presented a .63-carat diamond and white gold ring of his own design.

“I shared how much I loved her, how I couldn’t imagine life without her, and I asked her, ‘Will you marry me?’”

Music swells! Confetti sprays! Trumpets sound! And the two lovers kiss! Or…not.

“We decided to wait to hold hands until we were engaged and to have our first kiss on our wedding day. We want to save the physical side of our relationship for our wedding day and not go further than we should. If you are kissing, it gets more intimate. Obviously, you can kiss and not have sex. It’s about setting a higher standard so you don’t struggle [with temptation].”

Ah yes. Struggling with temptation is for the devil. I’d much rather sit here with my new fiance and think about how I’m NOT GOING TO KISS HER UNTIL OUR WEDDING DAY.

What do you have to say for yourself, Derick?

“I feel like I’m dreaming. It was great to grab her hand for the first time.”

Yes, I imagine that would be great. After months of clapping from the other side of the room when you wanted her attention, you can finally just tap her on the shoulder. How romantic. And of course, once the wedding’s behind you, you can finally get down to the business of popping out a new baby every forty-five seconds until you have enough for a baseball team. How joyful.

(Photo: TLC)

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    • LadyClodia

      Technically I had gotten engaged to my husband before we had ever touched, but that was because there was an ocean between us. We met online, and I’m not saying that that wasn’t strange, especially 15 years ago, but I’m still going to be judgy,
      Anyway, this is just weird. They’re holding themselves to some strange standards, and it seems like an awful lot to deal with on their wedding day/night.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        They’re holding themselves to more intense standards than the Duggar parents even did!

    • CharlesAStrickland

      Then Derick walked her by a park bench, where a stranger asked if he could sing the couple a love song. ”By the second verse, I knew the song was about Derick and me,” Jill told People. My goodness Jill, aren’t you sharp.

    • FemelleChevalier

      I just asked my dad – who’s more familiar with traditional and modern courtship – and he told me that these standards doesn’t make sense if you want to marry someone for life, i.e. no divorce. Unless they’re allowed to at least communicate.

      Are they?

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        They’re allowed to communicate, but never one on one. They’re always chaperoned, and they had physical, hand-on-hand contact for the first time after his proposal.

      • FemelleChevalier

        Ahhh… He said it’s still too restrictive, but it can work if the chaperones are not within the hearing range or something. Although he added that they’re in America, so it might be hard to make it work.

        He also thinks that the hand-holding/kissing abstinence is possibly a PR move. And I partly agree because it’s too surreal for me.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        I honestly don’t think it’s PR. This family is just that insane.

    • Pinkguest

      There were two teachers at my high school who were married. The woman told a group of my friends (all girls) and myself how before they got married they only held hands a few times, and their wedding day was the first time they kissed. She seemed so proud of it, but I thought it was a little strange (even my mom did when I told her). A couple months later I was telling a guy friend about it and he said he thought he knew why. He told me how at his church they have prayer meeting with only men, and that the teacher had spoke at one saying how we was gay and struggling with it, but he had was trying to get rid the thoughts and even got married to a woman to help. They never had any kids, and I have some assumptions for that as well. I guess it’s easy not to want physical contact with someone when you’re not attracted to them.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Yikes. That’s rough.

    • NLGyladies

      Well you are a product of your upbringing. I know I was. The 1st time out the box and pregnant. From my standpoint and one working with young girls who are sacked with this sex crazed society. Its better then being 16 and pregnant from a 2 min cheap thrill, unfair to the child created, living off tax payers money. Thank YOU Duggars, for being an example of how young lady’s should take a stand not giving in to the pressures of this wicked society. It good to see chasity isn’t completly lost. You are a good example of hope to young lady’s who are looking for someone to love them beyond he physical.

      • Psych Student

        You know what else helps young women not be 16 and pregnant? Birth control, vibrators for masturbation, and sexual activities that don’t involve penis in vagina interactions. Then they can enjoy sexual pleasure without pregnancy and without chastity.

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    • Psych Student

      The whole, talk to Dad thing irks me. Seriously. If my wife had asked my dad for permission to propose, we would have had a problem. And you can bet your ass, that no one gave us away at our wedding. We each had our parents walk us down the aisle and it was amazing, but we are both grown women (I was 27 when we got married and she was 28) who don’t need our parent’s permission to date, get engaged, or marry. *gag*

      • Teal

        I specifically told my then-fiancee (now husband) NOT to ask my dad’s permission. The whole concept is abhorrent to me.

    • brebay

      Wow, I never knew you couldn’t set boundaries in dating…

      • XxdiexforxyouxX

        Not when your children are in their mid-twenties, you can’t.

      • brebay

        You miss my point. What I mean is that she distinguished dating from “courting” by defining courting as something in which you set boundaries, as opposed to dating. It’s in the video above. I was being sarcastic obviously.

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    • Jose

      Run away Derrick!! You’ll be changing niece’s/nephew’s diapers for the next 30 years and being pressured by in-laws to pop out 20 kids like your Father In Law/Mother In Law. Plus, you’ll get major guilt trips if you don’t want to spend every weekend attending one of your crazy in-law’s baptisms/graduations/birthdays/etc… Forget about having your own life and taking your soon to be wife away from the nest-you’re the newest member of the Duggar cult.

    • Nina

      They are their own person Michelle and her husband are sick to be chaperoning them.