• Thu, Feb 13 - 9:51 am ET

Justin Bieber’s Mom Just Now Realized That She Missed The Boat On Parenting

Justin Bieber and his mom Pattie Mallette attending opening of Believe December 2013Call me an optimist, but as long as Justin Bieber‘s mom Pattie Malette still had some faith in her son, I couldn’t totally give up hope on him.

Sure, she’s openly admitted to leaving most of the parenting up to the Big Man In The Sky (not the Scooter Braun on his jet one, the God one), and Justin is currently in trouble for  more things than I can count on two hands, but someone had to be in control of him, right? I figured that at the end of the day, Patti probably just wasn’t trying that hard, and sooner or later she’d see something that was way over the line, and it would snap her to attention and he’d be grounded until he’s twenty-one.

But that was my dream world, and it’s never gonna happen. And you know why? Because a source close to Pattie told E! that she feels just as helpless as we do.

“As any mom of an adult child, Pattie is holding him close and talking to him about everything, but she can’t make his decisions for him.”

An adult child. Yup. That’s exactly what you have. And girl you better pull him even closer, because when First Lady Michelle Obama gives you parenting advice, you effing follow up.

“As any caring mother would be, Pattie is genuinely concerned for Justin, and she has said in many interviews before that she doesn’t have her head in the clouds and keeps in very close touch with Justin. She talks with him almost every day, which is likely more than any mom and a 19-year-old son…and she is in the public eye dealing with all of this.”

So you’re telling me that she talks to him almost every day and he still behaves like this? Oh boy. But how does he have time for that in between all his petty crimes??

“Pattie has a great relationship with Justin. He knows where she stands on the decisions he’s making in his life. He knows what she is proud of and what she has serious discussions with him about.”

OH OKAY WELL AS LONG AS HE KNOWS.

“Pattie never makes excuses for her son, but she is not going to turn on him for the approval or opinion of the world.”

So basically she knows he’s effed, same as the rest of us, she’s just not going to say so.

“t’s always challenging as a parent to raise your child in the way you know to be right, letting them grow as they need when they become adults and have strangers share their opinion in unfounded, often hateful ways. It would be hard to imagine that any parent wouldn’t feel the same love, concern and responsibility as Pattie does in regard to her son’s well-being. Pattie and [his dad] Jeremy both know that they are responsible before God and are focusing on their son’s well-being in private.”

That’s all well and good, but Justin’s focusing on it in public, so this strategy might be in need of a change-up.

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  • Anonymous

    Patti is in the same situation Amanda Bynes’ parents were in. You have an adult child who can easily isolate you from his/her life. The most important thing Patti can do is stay in contact with Justin and not lose connection to him. He will need her eventually.

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      I think he probably needed her three years ago.

  • Kelly17

    I like what she said

    • Robotic Arms Dealer

      That’s because you’re delusional

    • Kelly17

      She was being honest. We can criticize that family all day but why would you want to?

    • Kay_Sue

      Short answer? Because it’s kind of fun.

    • Eva Jolopi

      That sums up who and what you are Kay-Sue.

    • Kay_Sue

      If you say so.

    • Eva Jolopi

      Righto.

  • Kay_Sue

    I imagine (because I don’t have any yet) that parenting adult children is incredibly difficult, especially so in the public eye. I think Pattie’s real chance at helping him passed several years ago, because as the parent of a teenage superstar, her main focus should have been keeping him grounded, and that she does not appear to have been successful at.

    Now she really is stuck in “hope and pray” mode, because he could so easily shut her out of his life entirely. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t–if she doesn’t act, the public condemns her. If she does, she risks being cut out of his life, where I would hope she’s a positive influence……….

    • Kelly17

      He was very grounded, it was only the past year or so that he got out of control.

    • Kay_Sue

      I don’t consider that grounded. I consider that controlled.

      A person that is grounded doesn’t lose control when they reach adulthood and their parents step back, in my experience at least.

  • Jen

    This whole situation just makes me sad. I’m not a parent, but I can’t imagine it’s easy seeing your child go through such a rough patch in his life with the public following and criticizing his, and your, every move. I don’t know what to make of this “source” close to her, but I do just wish she would come out and say, hey, I’m going to step in and help him change and get it together, whether he’s an “adult” or not. I was no where near ready to forego my parents’ advice at 19, and I don’t think I ever will be. I always want their opinion and guidance in my life no matter what my age. Come on, pattie, help your son out. I for one am not rooting for him to fail. I’d like to see him get through this and enjoy a long career cause I do think he’s talented, and I think it’s unfortunate he has to live awkward teenage/young adult years in front of the entire world.

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      Yeah absolutely. Everything about it is rough, but leaving him alone out there isn’t gonna help anything.

    • Jen

      Oh totally agree, no argument here. She needs to take Michelle Obama’s advice and be there. Action face to face, not advice from afar. Whether he wants that or not right now, she needs to be around all the time. And he’ll thank her for it one day.

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      Agreed. Sometimes being a parent isn’t doing what your kid wants.

  • Eva Jolopi

    Good post.

    I think Pattie, like most parents, “parents2 the way she believes is right and is able to.

    The problem appears to be that while she went off doing good work on the inspiration circuit, helping to fund single mother centers etc, a lot of dangerous influences filled her place in her son’s life.

    She is also only able to talk to and guide him to a certain extent before he withdraws and says, “Nope.”

    Looking at the situation is, frankly I am worried. In December there was talk of a break, relaxing, stepping away. Now, JB has been pulled back in – through his own actions and the momentum of worldwide attention – to a preset that is trained on traumatic focus, asset stripping, legal penalties – and death.

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      Unfortunately, I think you’re right.

    • Eva Jolopi

      We keep doing this to people.

      It doesn’t help that they start the steamroller running. But it’s where it’s headed. Of that, I am overwhelmingly certain.

      I wonder if others in his camp know? If we can see it from afar, it’s gotta be obvious to at least one of them, right?

      Or am I wrong?