Even if you don’t believeÂ Dylan Farrow‘s story, you really gotta hand it to her — she really has not faltered under pressure. Even as a wide range of critics from strangers to her own estranged brother Moses FarrowÂ have attacked her allegations of sexual abuse against her father,Â Woody Allen, she has refused to be cowed, releasing her full story to The New York Times last week and supplementing it with another statement today.
It can’t be easy to face down your accused abuser, but it only gets more difficult when he’s A. a family member and B. a famous guy whose movieÂ Blue JasmineÂ is up for three Oscars this season. And yet here she is, standing strong, defending her right to speak to the media about her alleged experience and responding to her brother Moses’ statement calling her a liar:
“It took all of my strength and all of my emotional fortitude to do what I did this week in the hope that it would put the truth out there. That is my only ammunition. I don’t have money or publicists or limos or fancy apartments in Manhattan. All I have is the truth and that is all I put out there.”
She makes an excellent point, you guys. This is a woman has watched her mother’s longtime relationship end, seen her family divided, and had to change her name and go into hiding all based on her accusations. She’s already lost a lot, so what is she still fighting for?
“My intention in writing that piece was to put the truth on paper from a voice that was not able to speak before.”
The voice of a seven-year old. Just to remind you where we’re coming from.
“People are saying that I am not actually remembering what I remember. People are saying that my ‘evil mother’ brainwashed me because they refuse to believe that my sick, evil father would ever molest me, because we live in this society where victim blaming and inexcusable behavior â€“ this taboo against shaming the famous at the expense of their victims â€“ is accepted and excused.”
Another excellent point. Why is it so much easier to imagine that Dylan’s motherÂ Mia FarrowÂ was so evil as toÂ invent a story of molestation and feed it to her child than that Dylan’s father Woody was so evil as toÂ perpetrateÂ said molestation? When given the opportunity, why not give both sides of the testimony equal weight instead of assuming that the supposed victim is lying?
“I knew there were people saying I was a liar and that this was part of some smear campaign â€“ some bitter vendetta of my mother’s, [but] I didn’t realize that it was going to be a betrayal of this magnitude.”
I guess I Just don’t understand what Dylan would have to gain from a smear campaign on Woody. He’s doing fine, clearly. He doesn’t even seem bothered by his daughter’s story, except in the ways that it affectsÂ him. He’d probably be happier if she stayed quiet and kept her story under the radar, but she wasn’t comfortable with that anymore.
“After the Golden Globes, my brother Ronan showed immense bravery for standing up for the family and I realized it was my turn to stand up and to tell the truth.”
But obviously it hasn’t been an easy road, with betrayals coming from all sides, including from Moses, as I’ve said.
“My brother has broken my heart. Moses divorced himself from the family a long time ago. I always missed him. I loved him and I kept him in my thoughts. These lies â€“ this betrayal â€“ is unfathomable to me coming from a brother I loved and cherished and grew up with.”
But bottom line, it sounds like Dylan will stand behind her story and do whatever it takes to get the truth out there, even if it means being attacked by the media:
“I am hoping to help at least one person out there. And that’s why I spoke out.”
Can’t argue with that.
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