Is there anything sadder for ’90s kids than the way that Kirk Cameron turned out? From the coolest teen delinquent in the world to a homophobe hiding behind religion. Sadly it turns out that his sister Deej didn’t fare any better when it came to being a healthy adult. In a recent interview on Huffpost Live, Candace Cameron talks about her relationship with her husband and how she lets him be the dominant one in the relationship. Because she’s naturally a passive person? No, because Val Bure’s a total a-hole and it’s easier to let him have his way than to argue with him. I mean she didn’t say that exactly, but I think you’ll read the following quote and agree that’s the subtext.
“My husband is a natural born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.”
I know, I know, you need a moment to swoon. That’s okay, take the moment. It’s not every day we see Notebook levels of romance play out in real life. Then please come with me as we move on to the next quote, the one where she explains that she doesn’t want her words misinterpreted because she does have a say in her own marriage…
“It doesn’t mean I don’t voice my opinion and it doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion—I absolutely do but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority”
…it’s just that her say doesn’t mean diddly squat in the end. It’s just like a novelty. A fun perk of being married to a natural born leader.
“It doesn’t mean he’s right—I allow him to make the final choice.”
You see! She knows he’s not always right all the time. But he’s such a whiny baby when you call him out on that it’s just easier to let him have his way. You know what I’m saying? Part of having a healthy relationship (in the 1800s) is just going with the flow. Sure the sky might be blue, but if you’re husband says it’s orange, then what the heck, it’s orange. You know you’re right and that’s all that matters. I’m sure Danny Tanner would agree with me on this. It was always easier to laugh at Joey’s jokes than to sit him down and explain that he might want to look into another career. So you do you DJ Tanner, keep letting your husband boss you around. I mean, listen to your opinion and then disregard it for his own.