‘Grooming’ is another word I learned, which is the process of establishing an emotional connection with a child or young adult with the express purpose of preparing them for sexual interaction down the line.
It’s sad to look back and see the truth of your situation, but a gift to be able to do so with clarity.
Many of you realize that a relationship between a 33-year old and a 16-year old can never be equal, no matter what, and I really appreciated that.
An intelligent look at victim shaming and another reference to grooming. It’s a real thing, guys.
And it’s always good to learn the law of the land, although I still don’t know if Paul and his girlfriend of seven years Jasmine met and dated in California or elsewhere.
And whether or not people agreed with me, my goal was to be as objective as possible, so I really appreciated those who felt I achieved that.
I particularly appreciated this exchange between two commenters who started out disagreeing but found a middle ground through respectful discourse and open-mindedness. I thought it was so great, as you can see from the upvotes.
Gross to think about, but important to point out that Paul’s daughter and girlfriend were only seven grades apart.
Not a very rewarding back-and-forth, but the upvotes encouraged me that it was a conversation worth having.
Another great point — anyone angry that I’m ‘disrespecting’ Paul’s memory by stating these facts is implicitly admitting that what he did was not okay.
If you come of age in a relationship, it can be incredibly difficult to figure out how you really feel about it.
Some commenters defended me to others when I got too overwhelmed and gave up defending myself.
And some were just as disgusted as I was but sassier and funnier about it.
Also yeah, super weird that people were cursing my name and going to the end of the earth to defend someone that they’d never met and knew exactly the same amount about as I did. Pretty out of control.
And finally, this. Thanks for the support and encouragement, guys. You’re great.