• Tue, Dec 10 - 4:17 pm ET

The 22 Best Responses To Me Writing About Paul Walker’s Underage Girlfriend

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So yesterday I was feeling really overwhelmed by all the backlash against me for writing about the really disappointing and inappropriate fact that Paul Walker started dating his girlfriend Jasmine when she was 16 and he was 33 (and a girlfriend before that, Aubrianna, when she was 16 and he was 28), so I wrote a post that included some of the most discouraging responses I’d gotten about the whole situation.

But I think we can all agree that that’s not a great attitude to have, and today I’m trying to be a little more optimistic. In addition to the rude, mean, and threatening comments that I got from people about my posts, I also got some really great feedback from people who were really listening to what I had to say. Specifically for a story I shared about my own similar situation — being in a relationship with a 24-year old when I was 16 — I received an outpouring of supportive, intelligent, encouraging comments thanking me for bringing attention to the issue, and even sharing their own experiences.

So instead of getting mired down in the negative of people yelling at me for being an idiot or a slut or whatever just for being concerned about a young girl’s welfare, I’ve decided to appreciate the positive aspects that came of me giving a shit about maturity gaps and age of consent and all that jazz instead. And in the process, to thank you, Crushable readers, for being some of the best commenters on the internet.

PW good 3

Always important to remind yourself how young 16-year olds actually are. They’re kids.

PW good 4Like I said, a lot of people shared their own experiences, which were difficult to read, but really rewarding as well. A lot of people getting perspective on tough situations from when they were younger.

PW good 5And don’t forget that a lot of the people involved in these relationships feel at the time that there’s nothing wrong with them and only realize it later. That’s part of the problem.

PW good 6 This made me feel so great, and it’s so smart.

PW good 7There were also a lot of people who provided terminology I wasn’t aware of going into this, like ‘ephebophilic’, which is adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, typically age 15 – 19.

PW good 8 It’s scary how much of this stuff is the same across the board — the same techniques to reel young people in and the same to keep them around.

PW good 9And just because a relationship lasts a long time doesn’t mean that it’s okay.

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  • hbk72777

    His girlfriends love him because he’s “hot”

  • http://www.straight-or-gay.com/ John Hollywood

    I think you were doing what you were doing because it was newsworthy. One can still be a fan of Paul Walker and love him as a person and explore items that hit the news. While some may have had an issue with blogging on this and the timing, I personally think that it was important to cover. The news about the 16 year old girls was only starting to get attention in the days following his death. While much of what came out was muddled, there were several facts that proved to be true – such as the relationship with Jennifer P-G.

    And your post got lots of attention. I followed it when it all went down and sat back and watched the commentary. Interesting stuff and thumbs up!

    John Hollywood

    http://www.-straight-or-gay.com