Just when I thought my new crush on Lorde couldn’t get any bigger, she tellsÂ MTV NewsÂ that she’s not going to apologize for what she said about Selena Gomez in an interview from a few weeks ago. For those of you who don’t have Google alerts set up for “Major Dramaaaaaa,” lemme catch you up real fast. Lorde pointed out that “Come and Get It” portrays women negatively. Which, catchiness aside, it most definitely does. Selena responded by saying that criticizing another woman’s music makes Lorde a bad feminist. And now Lorde is responding by saying that the music scene’s fifty shades of messed-up right now when it comes to criticizing other artists.
“I think there’s a funny culture in music that’s only happened over the last 15 years, that if you have an opinion about something in music that isn’t 100-percent good, you’re a ‘hater,’ even if you have perfectly reasonable grounds for that critique,” she said. “People will sayÂ exactlyÂ what they think about a movie or a TV show, and that’s fine, but as soon as you say it about a record, you’re like some little zombie in a funny dungeon.
Can I get a slow clap up in here for our girl Lorde on calling out this whole “hater” trend? It not only runs rampant in the music scene, but also on the internet. Whenever you criticize someone popular, you’re called a hater or jealous or if you’re lucky, both. I can’t even tell you how many times people have accused me of being jealous of artists like Taylor Swift when I call them out on their bad behavior. Yes, there are most certainly people out there who throw out insults at celebrities because they’re jealous. But there are also people out there who do write well reasoned arguments and are dismissed immediately as being a hater.
Lorde was right when she said that “Come and Get It” sends a bad message to girls about their sexuality. If you actually read through the lyrics, they’re about a girl who’s waiting around for a guy to come and have sex with her at his own leisure.
You ainâ€™t gotta worry itâ€™s an open invitation
Iâ€™ll be sittinâ€™ right here real patient
All day all night Iâ€™ll be waitinâ€™ standby
While Selena’s allowed to sing about whatever she wants, she can’t dismiss Lorde as a hater for simply calling her out on her song’s message. In fact, the more mature response would’ve been to defend her song and explain to us why she believes in the message. (And wouldn’t we all love to hear her explain to her tween fans why a woman should wait around for a guy.) However she chose the easy route, and that is to blame Lorde for having an opinion. Unfortunately for her, Lorde doesn’t play by the traditional celebrity PR rules and she’s not going to apologize for what she said.