The joint Crushable application to be the third wheel in Melissa McCarthy and Sandra Bullock‘s friendship is still pending, so we’re not entirely sure yet how Melissa feels about us, but with every day that passes we get more sure of how we feel about her. Spoiler alert: it’s an obsession. She just seems so sure of herself on so many levels that it’s hard not to be utterly charmed by her, especially since she so often takes a stand for what’s right in exactly the way everyone should if we all had our brains and our balls in the right places. Remember back when she kicked that extra off her movie set for being abusive toward her kid? And how hilarious she was on Saturday Night Live, and in Bridesmaids? Is there anything this lady can’t do?
Well, apparently critic Rex Reed thinks so, as he made abundantly clear in his review of Melissa’s movie Identity Theft. Interestingly enough, for a film critic, he made his review less about the film and more about his personal perception of Melissa as ‘a female hippo’ and ‘tractor-sized’, and refused to accept blame for the incident when he was hit with the nation’s backlash. Melissa didn’t address the incident at the time, probably because it was completely inappropriate and had nothing to do with her, but now she’s crafted a response that seems perfectly designed to impress me from all angles simultaneously. When her New York Times interviewer asked her for her reaction to the piece, she says it was initially “Really?” and then later, “Why would someone O.K. that?” She never brings up the guy’s name directly, which I really respect, but says:
“I felt really bad for someone who is swimming in so much hate. I just thought, that’s someone who’s in a really bad spot, and I am in such a happy spot. I laugh my head off every day with my husband and my kids who are mooning me and singing me songs.”
It’s an impressive response, but one Melissa said she wouldn’t have had twenty years ago.
‘If this had happened back then, it may have crushed me.’ But now, with two young daughters, in ‘a strange epidemic of body image and body dysmorphia,’ she says articles like that ‘just add to all those younger girls, that are not in a place in their life where they can say, ‘That doesn’t reflect on me.” That makes it more true,’ she said. ‘It means you don’t actually look good enough.’
See, I feel like that’s such thoughtful commentary. Melissa is solid enough in her own self-worth that his words don’t physically or emotionally affect her, but she’s upset on behalf of all the young women in the world who aren’t there yet, and who might let this man’s hurtful words define them as people. That’s the part she has a problem with, not his decision to target her specifically, and I just think that’s the most mature, intelligent response I could imagine. You have a genuwine admirer on your hands, Melissa. I hope you’re okay with that.
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