In a new interview with Cosmopolitan, Channing Tatum reveals the secret to having a long and lasting marriage. While his 8-year relationship Jenna Dewan-Tatum certainly gives him the credentials to dole out advice, I fear that his advice will probably ruin many a marriage. Mostly because it involves honesty. And when was the last time being completely honest with someone you care about went well?
Q: You and Jenna [Dewan-Tatum, his wife] have been together for nearly eight years. What’s your secret?
A: You have to want it. Jenna’s and my thing is checking in with each other all the time, like “On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you love me right now?” And you gotta be honest, and you’ve got to want an honest answer. I told a friend to do that. He asked the question and it turned into a huge fight, and I’m like, that’s kind of the point. Obviously, something needed to be fixed, he needed to be aware of it, and she needed to get it off her chest.
In theory this advice is great. Not just for marriages, but also for friendships and roommates and really any situation where you have to deal with someone on a frequent basis. However as someone who occasionally dabbles in the truth, it’s a dangerous game to play. In fact, some people might even say the most dangerous game to play. And that even includes when you preface the truth with “no offense but…” Turns out saying that doesn’t automatically result in the person taking no offense.
So before you take advice from this Cosmo article (or really any Cosmo article), take a moment to think about how it important it is to you to have a healthy relationship? Isn’t it more fun to play emotional games that don’t result in anyone openly getting their feelings hurt? As Shakespeare once famously said on Twitter, “quit playing games with my heart, before you tear us apart.” Seriously, unless you met on the set of a dance movie, avoid the truth. Especially when the silent treatment’s a better, and more mature, option.