As always, Amy Poehler continues to deliver valuable advice to middle schoolers through her Ask Amy series that I can apply to my very own life. Also, where was she when I was in middle school? Kids today, they just don’t know how good they have it! They have the amazing and magnificent Amy Poehler answering their questions on a frequent basis, I had AOL chatrooms. One doles out words of wisdom and one taught me that honey is not really vital to mention when cybering.
This week on Ask Amy, she answers a question from a girl who’s dealing with a bully in her dance class. Apparently this rotten apple keeps making fun of India’s dancing by writing songs about it — which obviously doesn’t make India feel great. Amy’s advice to her, is as always, spot on. At one point she says to nicely confront the songwriter about how the songs make her feel — and that this will either go over well or the songwriter will say she’s overreacting. And if that’s the case, Amy reminds her that, “it’s never overreacting to ask for what you want or need.” THANK YOU. There’s nothing worse than when someone says you’re overreacting for being offended by something they’re doing to you.
However the part that I took the most from (as someone who’s a horrible dancer and incredibly aware of that fact) is her message about dancing making you feel awesome and vulnerable all the at the same time. And no, I’m not saying India’s a bad dancer, she’s probably a very good dancer. I’m just talking about myself and the fact that during my freshman year of college, my horrid dancing inspired a move that my friends called “the Jenni.” While at first that made me never want to move in public ever again, I finally got to the place where I was like fuck it. And Amy captures my feelings on that so well.
“Because when you’re dancing, when you’re moving, it’s a really vulnerable place and dancing is so special and awesome and you never want anyone to make you feel uncomfortable or self-conscious. You never want anyone commenting when you’re committing to something.”
So to all the bad dancers out there who feel self-conscious whenever they’re tempted to start dancing, remember that no one has the right to make you feel bad about your moves. Dance like nobody (except Amy Poehler) is watching.