• Wed, Jan 30 2013

Rihanna Confirms She’s Officially Back With Chris Brown, Would Rather Be Happy Than Admired

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In Rolling Stone‘s February cover story, which is aptly titled “Crazy In Love,” Rihanna confirms what was already painfully obvious to anyone with eyes: she and Chris Brown have resumed their totally healthy and normal relationship. As she explains in the article, Rihanna made this brave move in spite of all the would-be happiness saboteurs telling her not to!

“I decided it was more important for me to be happy,” she says. “I wasn’t going to let anybody’s opinion get in the way of that. Even if it’s a mistake, it’s my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it.”

Do you hear that, haters? You might think you are being reasonable by telling Rihanna not to get back with the person who beat the shit out of her, then acted like he was Jesus on the cross (literally!) because people didn’t forgive him quickly enough, then got a tattoo of her bruised up face on his neck. But you are not. You are standing in the way of her happiness.

Oh wait, there is more:

“He doesn’t have the luxury of fucking up again,” she says. “That’s just not an option. I can’t say that nothing else will ever go wrong. But I’m pretty solid in the knowing that he’s disgusted by that. And I wouldn’t have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility.”

“He made a mistake, and he’s paid his dues,” Rihanna adds. “He’s paid so much. And I know that’s not a place he would ever want to go back to. And sometimes people need support and encouragement, instead of ridicule and criticism and bashing.”

He can change, he swears it!

Now, I’m not saying a person can’t change after doing something horrible. People do. But Chris Brown—who is now in new trouble for punching Frank Ocean—has given us zero evidence that he has. (Saying that he has doesn’t count.) I will also say that there are very few circumstances in which someone deserves continued love and affection from someone they tried to kill with their bare hands. And this isn’t one of them.

I don’t want it to sound like I’m mad at Rihanna here. I am not. Getting mad at the victim of domestic abuse for getting back with her abuser will only re-victimize her and drive her closer to her abuser. But I am sad for her. Super, duper, tremendously sad. I know there’s a fine line between re-victimizing someone and ignoring bad things happening in a celebrity’s world when you are a celebrity blogger. I sincerely hope I am effectively walking that line, and that Rihanna is able to see past her emotions and stop making excuses for this dirtbag someday.

(Via Rolling Stone)

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  • Mel

    Well looks like rihanna is going to be like the sharon osbournes and Evelyn Lozada’s and continue to date the men who beat them. More power to her in her hopes that he’s changed. Still she has a very good point about it being her mistake to make, people seem to constantly want to enable her behavior by writing it off as a cycle of abuse but she firmly says it plain as day this is just her making a decision to be happy and if it backfires its on her.

    • http://www.facebook.com/ryananzaldi Ryan G Anzaldi

      The Osbournes are not a fair reference for this. Sharon Osbourne is one tough bitch who, when Ozzy tried to strangle her, pretty much rolled her eyes and told him to stop being a dick. I’m sure she’s dealt with much worse than spousal abuse. Rihanna literally got beaten to the point of hospitalization, and Chris Brown is pretty much walking away from the situation without a real scratch, when he should be spending his days contemplating how best to get out the tiny barred window that illuminates his hopefully otherwise dark and dank cell.

  • Leah Bee

    Oh puleease! She is so desperate. She clearly had too hard of a time finding a new relationship because she’s dialed to only accept an abusive one as exciting and worthy. It’s bad enough that Chris bRown beat her but didn’t he beat her because she was trying to get in the way of him and the russian girl he was really into? I think she’s just not his type.and he’s dating her to prove he was wronged. I haven’t heard him declaring love for her. She’s just plain dumb. He’s using her.

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