In Rolling Stone‘s February cover story, which is aptly titled “Crazy In Love,” Rihanna confirms what was already painfully obvious to anyone with eyes: she and Chris Brown have resumed their totally healthy and normal relationship. As she explains in the article, Rihanna made this brave move in spite of all the would-be happiness saboteurs telling her not to!
“I decided it was more important for me to be happy,” she says. “I wasn’t going to let anybody’s opinion get in the way of that. Even if it’s a mistake, it’s my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it.”
Do you hear that, haters? You might think you are being reasonable by telling Rihanna not to get back with the person who beat the shit out of her, then acted like he was Jesus on the cross (literally!) because people didn’t forgive him quickly enough, then got a tattoo of her bruised up face on his neck. But you are not. You are standing in the way of her happiness.
Oh wait, there is more:
“He doesn’t have the luxury of fucking up again,” she says. “That’s just not an option. I can’t say that nothing else will ever go wrong. But I’m pretty solid in the knowing that he’s disgusted by that. And I wouldn’t have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility.”
“He made a mistake, and he’s paid his dues,” Rihanna adds. “He’s paid so much. And I know that’s not a place he would ever want to go back to. And sometimes people need support and encouragement, instead of ridicule and criticism and bashing.”
He can change, he swears it!
Now, I’m not saying a person can’t change after doing something horrible. People do. But Chris Brown—who is now in new trouble for punching Frank Ocean—has given us zero evidence that he has. (Saying that he has doesn’t count.) I will also say that there are very few circumstances in which someone deserves continued love and affection from someone they tried to kill with their bare hands. And this isn’t one of them.
I don’t want it to sound like I’m mad at Rihanna here. I am not. Getting mad at the victim of domestic abuse for getting back with her abuser will only re-victimize her and drive her closer to her abuser. But I am sad for her. Super, duper, tremendously sad. I know there’s a fine line between re-victimizing someone and ignoring bad things happening in a celebrity’s world when you are a celebrity blogger. I sincerely hope I am effectively walking that line, and that Rihanna is able to see past her emotions and stop making excuses for this dirtbag someday.
(Via Rolling Stone)
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