Oh, Jodie Foster, Was That Whole Coming-Out-But-Not Thing Really Necessary?

70th Annual Golden Globe Awards - ArrivalsJodie Foster was honored with the Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement Award at the 70th Annual Golden Globes tonight, and boy did she go ahead and make it awkward.

Let me start out by saying: I have absolutely nothing against Jodie as a person or a performer. Her body of work speaks for itself, and she’s been in the cinema since age three, so she’s already forgotten more than most people will ever know about the movie business. She’s extremely talented and has deserved every award she’s ever gotten, this one included.

BUT. What the what was that speech? I understand the compulsion to keep your personal life personal, and the frustration that might come when the media refuses to accept that decision. But that’s not what tonight was about. Tonight was really and truly about your work, not about your sexual orientation. So to get everybody quiet and saying you were nervous because you were about to make a big statement, only to finally say, “I’m single”, that was kind of a cheap shot, no? It would have been one thing to make the joke and move on — I would’ve even respected that — but you followed it with an extended, protracted explanation of why you wouldn’t come out publicly. Okay, but nobody asked you. You’re being honored. You can talk about whatever you want, and you chose to talk about…what you don’t want to talk about. How oddly passive-aggressive of you, Jodie. Either talk about it or don’t, but you can’t have it halfway like this, where you bring it up and then tell us it’s none of our business. Where you tell us your orientation is private but then subtly come out as a lesbian without really saying it by thanking your partner in love of twenty years and the co-parent of your children, Cydney. Where you say you appreciate Mel Gibson for talking you off the ledge of quitting acting…and then announce you’re quitting acting. I. Don’t. Get it.

What the hell was the point of that, you odd pile of angles? I’m befuddled. You came out while scolding us for expecting you to come out. At least you’re going home with Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. Otherwise there was absolutely zero point to that.

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    • Vern

      Everybody else got it apparently.

      • Vern

        It was pretty obvious to anyone “I hope you’re not disappointed that there won’t be a big coming-out speech tonight, because I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago back in the stone age in those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends and family, and co-workers and then gradually, proudly to everyone who knew her, to everyone she actually met. But now apparently I’m told that every celebrity is expected to honor the details of their private life with a press confrence, a fragrance, and a prime-time reality show. You guys might be surprised, but I am not Honey Boo Boo child. No, I’m sorry that’s just not me, never was, and it never will be….” What did you miss? Via The Advocate

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        The point. I missed the point.

    • http://thekimberlydiaries.com/ the kimberly diaries

      I really think a simple, Ellen-style I’M GAY would have sufficed. I agree though — why bring it up if it’s nobody’s business?

      • Alexis Rhiannon


    • Cee

      A person comes out the way they want, not the way you want. Why does it not satisfy the media when a gay person says whatever they want to say about their sexual orientation? Why must they spell it out to you guys to satisfy you?
      I think she did this half for her and half so people can just shut the fuck up already. She said she was gay the way she wanted to say it and she asked for privacy because she’s not going to be some rainbow colored unicorn from now on.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        I’m saying it was a night on which she had no obligation to admit or confess or reveal anything. She could say exactly what she wanted, which is why I was surprised she brought it up at all, if she really felt it was none of our business.

    • Alsoyesalso

      Agreed. Jodie Foster didn’t have to say anything about her private life, and coming out by complaining about how you have to come out is, I think, a little insulting to the other actors and actresses in the audience who chose to come out because they thought it was important. Also, cheap shot at Honey Boo Boo, given that she’s six and probably doesn’t have a whole lot of control over how public her life is.

      • Jenni

        Same exact thoughts! She’s basically insulted everyone who’s come out of being a publicity whore in need of a fragrance line. I don’t really see how coming out publicly (and in the process helping lots of closeted kids feel better about themselves) relates to a reality show about a child. It’s okay to not come out, but I don’t think it’s okay to insult other people who do.

      • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

        Face up[. Yale dumbed down Jodi Foster. She was much better before Yale.

      • Loisada

        I don’t find her refusal to play the name game dumb. I don’t understand why people adamantly insist that Foster or anyone else should pigeonhole themselves. Why should she tag herself as gay? Perhaps she is – as we all are at the core – simply a vibrantly sexual being? One whose most significant relationship happens to have been with a woman? Perhaps her next partner will be a man? Would that require Foster to label herself as bisexual? Now that would set hordes of people, many “gays” included, foaming! What could be more frightening than an a truly liberated sexually open woman? My sense is that she is in no way a coward for refusing to bend by publicly categorizing herself. Maybe she has no desire to join the lesbian brigade. Doesn’t seem like much of a joiner to me…

        “I refuse to live in the ordinary world as ordinary women. To enter ordinary relationships. I want ecstasy. I am a neurotic — in the sense that I live in my world. I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself.” Anais Nin

      • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

        I don’t think she should either. I just meant that she was more alive before Yale. More something, less constrained in her imagination.

    • Binnie

      The whole point of her speech wasn’t her sexual orientation, but about privacy, and the thirst of the press to invade said privacy all the time. She was being wonderfully sarcastic.

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Sometimes the line between ‘wonderfully’ sarcastic and ‘bat-house kooky’ can get a little shaky, for me.

    • avanti56

      i totally agree with you. Couldn’t have said it better. Thank people, reflect on the movie business and the many hats you wore. Defending your privacy, forfeiting your privacy, in the same 10 minutes was a waste of our time.

    • William Farnsworth

      The Writer of this article is an idiot –

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Was there an end to that sentence?

      • Jenni

        Have you ever heard of a sequel Alexis?

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Is it like a tiny telescope?

    • sable

      she said everything correctly and from her heart, no one has a right to tell her what to say and what not to say. it is her words therfore it is Jodie Foster, media had to do nothing with her performance

      • Alexis Rhiannon

        Media had nothing to do with it? She was receiving an award for her work in cinema and giving a speech on national television!

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