I donâ€™t know ifÂ you’veÂ been stalking Amy Poehler as much as I have lately, but I am IN LOVE with her web series called Smart Girls Ask Amy. In case youÂ aren’tÂ familiar, the show is an advice segment from her Smart Girls at the Party series where Amy takes a big sister approach to give advice to teen girls.
But letâ€™s be honest, even in our 20â€™s we still donâ€™t have our shit together. So, as we approach the New Year, letâ€™s ditch the usual â€ślose 20 pounds by my birthdayâ€ť or â€śFind my soul mateâ€ť resolutions and use Amyâ€™s amazing advice to make some realistic changes in 2013.
Resolution 1: Wear Less Makeup
Even as adults our self esteem can get pretty low. Iâ€™m sure you arenâ€™t piling on the glitter eye shadow and blue lipstick ala Ke$ha, but once itâ€™s gotten to the point where you canâ€™t be seen without foundation and eyeliner then you need to reevaluate the way you see yourself. Even if itâ€™s just once a week, go somewhere with a naked face and youâ€™ll start to feel more comfortable in your natural state.
Resolution 2: Manage Your Stress Better
Likely you have an endless loop of worries going through your brain like a bad Taylor Swift song that you just canâ€™t stop singing (despite hoping to never ever ever have to hear it again, like ever). When you take each issue individually rather than see the long list of things you have to do, it suddenly seems manageable. Do what you can today and check everything off one at a time.
Resolution 3: Get Rid of Negative People in Your Life
There is absolutely no reason to keep in contact with frenemies or anyone else who brings you down. Unless you think they might one day be famous,Â Â in which case keep in contact. Those passive aggressive, snarky little comments that your best friend from high school makes are BS and a sign thatÂ you’veÂ outgrown the friendship. Get rid of her!
Resolution 4: Love What You Have in Body and Life
Itâ€™s okay to strive for more, but the body shaming and ungratefulness have got to stop! Even Beyonce, the most beautiful woman in the world, has struggled with body issues, but she learned to focus on her assets. I donâ€™t have a flat stomach but I always get complimented on my legs.Â My car is a piece of crap, but hey, at least I have one that gets me to work. Itâ€™s that easy!
Resolution 5: Stop Searching for Love
Every single time I log onto Facebook there is a new engagement, marriage or baby announcement. Iâ€™m happy for them for like a millisecond before it starts feeling like theyâ€™re trying to force me to reevaluate my love life. Thereâ€™s so much pressure in your mid to late 20â€™s to find love and start settling down that a lot of us try to make relationships that weÂ shouldn’tÂ be in work. Stop forcing it! Yeah, celeb baby pictures sometimes make me want to pop one out, but then I remember Iâ€™m single and how much I still want to do with my life and pop a birth control pill instead (and chase it with a shot to be safe). It justÂ isn’tÂ time. Thereâ€™s someone out there for you and it will happen when itâ€™s supposed to happen!
Resolution 6: Embrace Your Quirks
Iâ€™m told Iâ€™m weird all the time. But you know what? I love it. I love that I have different interests than everyone else. Embracing my true self has made me go from being â€śthat shy awkward girlâ€ť to â€śthat confident weird girl.â€ť Â Magically, displaying your little quirks makes you appear totally cool, funny and in control. As long as it doesn’t exceedÂ Lady Gagaâ€™s level of weird youâ€™re fine.
Resolution 7: Make a Decision
Should I change my major? Do I want to go out with him? Do I really need to buy the new iPhone even though itâ€™s exactly the same as the last? Should I watch Parks and Recreation tonight or something else? (BTW the answer is always Parks and Recreation). It seems like every decision holds so much weight. But at the end of the day, no matter which choices you make in life, theyâ€™re better than Lindsay Lohanâ€™s decisions. Take comfort in that.
Resolution 8: Let It Go
Your 20â€™s are a decade of letdowns and unmet expectations. My dream was to be a cryptozooloigist exploring the world while tracking down La Chupacabra and capturing dragons. Sadly, itÂ didn’tÂ happen, so I had to let it go. Iâ€™m 24 and had to realize that my dream of being Dora the Explorer would never come true. Whatever youâ€™re holding on to, whether its insecurities, bad relationships, or failed goals sometimes you just have to know when to let it go. Itâ€™s okay to have goals, just make sure theyâ€™re realistic.
If youâ€™re anything like me,Â you’veÂ grown up and realized that your not completely ready to be a grown up. Everyone has room for improvement, but I can tell by the fact that youâ€™re a Crushable readerÂ you’veÂ got a lot going for you. Who better to get advice from than Amy Poehler, right? I pinkie swear that Ask Amy will help you avoid that quarter life crisis everyone keeps talking about. Our twenties donâ€™t have to be such a letdown, we’ve got our 30â€™s for that.
Let me know what your resolutions are below and Have a great 2013!
(Lead Image:Â Felipe Ramales, PacificCoastNews.com)