While I find Taylor Swift’s music just as addicting as the next girl, I find her attitude toward her career as well as her relationships so incredibly disappointing. Throughout her publicity tour for “Red” this week, she continued to drop coy hints about her music and pretend to be surprised that people care so much about who each song is about.
In fact she tells Katie Couric on an interview airing this Friday, “I don’t read anything about myself, so I didn’t know that that was a thing that people figured out.”
For all the acclaim about her maturing on this album, I find her general disdain toward being an adult more obvious than ever. It’s not only that she wrote an album about her famous ex-boyfriends that she knew would be dissected by her millions of fans, but she’s now pretending like this was her only choice. That these men wronged her so badly that she has no other option but to publicly out them as assholes.
Maybe during the beginning of her career, she did feel like these famous men took advantage of her. Maybe she truly felt victimized by other children during her childhood.
But now she’s Taylor Swift, one of the most successful and profitable music artists of our time. At some point in the last few years she went from the underdog to the mean girl — and it’s incredible to me that because she acts sweet and demure during interviews she gets away with it.
During the interview, she tells Katie that some of her ex-boyfriends “like to write really long emails” in response to her songs. Then she gave the camera quite the smug little look as everyone in the audience laughed along with her.
Considering Taylor Swift has said in the past she doesn’t contact these guys before releasing these songs, I don’t think an email asking her about them is the most insane notion.
What would you do if your ex wrote a song about your relationship that made her millions of dollars? You’d probably want to say a thing or two to her about it. And as an adult, you’d do it privately, via email — opposed to singing about it in an incredibly public song.
After all, making fun of an ex-boyfriend in public fell out of fashion in middle school. It twists the situation from one about confrontation to one about humiliation. No one calls someone out in public unless they’re looking to embarrass that person. Do these men need to be embarrassed about something they did to Taylor? Do Jake Gyllenhaal, Taylor Lautner, Joe Jonas and John Mayer deserve this publicity?
Maybe, maybe they do. But since Taylor likes to avoid those kinds of questions she leaves her fans in some kind of limbo that says it’s okay to make charged accusations toward someone in public without any kind of evidence to back it up. The lesson she continues to impart to her fans is that if it makes you feel better about yourself, then don’t worry about their feelings. After all, they must have had it coming.
Perhaps even most incredibly, she goes on to blame the media for her lack of successful relationships.
“I don’t know how to have a normal relationship because I try to act normal and love from a normal place and live a normal life, but there is sort of an abnormal magnifying glass, like [a] telescope lens, on everything that happens between me and anybody else. I don’t really know that much about love, it turns out.”
Nope, singing about past relationships has nothing to do with her inability to have a healthy, normal one now. It’s always someone else’s fault when you’re Taylor Swift.
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