• Mon, Oct 1 2012

Okay, Who Gave Taylor Swift An Entire Deck Of Victim Cards?

Taylor Swift, Our favorite small town country singer with a heart of gold and a history of humbleness, accidentally found herself featured on the cover of this month’s Glamour.

Based on her expression on the cover, I can only assume that they caught her off guard with this impromptu photoshoot. That they stumbled upon her playing with kittens in a field full of tall flowers and long sunbeams. That she looked curiously at them and wondered why they could possibly want to feature little ole her on a big town magazine cover.

But feature her they did — and the quotes that came out of the interview are the epitome of why Taylor Swift bothers me so.

Let’s go over some back story first. Taylor Swift dated professional asshole and casual singer John Mayer for a few months before she wrote the song Dear John.” The song’s a tribute to a young girl who dated a horrible guy and Taylor Swift has a history of writing songs about her ex-boyfriends. So naturally everyone assumed she wrote the song “Dear John” about John Mayer.

Based on these facts, it’s almost impossible to believe that Taylor Swift wouldn’t know that people would connect the dots. However, in this Glamour interview, she feigns innocence when it comes to the song, as well as to John Mayer’s reaction to it.

Glamour: You never identified who it was about, but John Mayer recently told Rolling Stone that it was him.
Taylor Swift: How presumptuous! I never disclose who my songs are about.
Glamour: He said he felt…
Taylor Swift: No! I don’t want to know, I don’t want to know.
Glamour: You don’t? [Mayer told Rolling Stone that he was "humiliated" by the song, and that Swift's releasing it was "a really lousy thing for her to do."]
Taylor Swift: I know it wasn’t good, so I don’t want to know. I put a high priority on staying happy, and I know what I can’t handle.
Glamour: It would hurt too much to hear?
Taylor Swift: It’s not that I’m this egomaniac and I don’t want to hear anything negative, because I do keep myself in check. But I’ve never developed that thick a skin. So I just kind of live a life, and I let all the gossip live somewhere else. If you go too far down the rabbit hole of what people think about you, it can change everything about who you are.

How wonderfully convenient for Taylor Swift that she can write an incredibly public song about an intimate relationship with someone and then not want to hear how it affected that someone. That she can pretend like her career is just her music, a diary entry and a web cam — and anything that results from it has nothing to do with her.

Sorry Taylor Swift. You’re an international pop sensation. Everything you write will get analyzed. Especially when you give answers like this in response to questions about your personal life.

I don’t talk about my personal life in great detail. I write about it in my songs, and I feel like you can share enough about your life in your music to let people know what you’re going through.

It’s fine if Taylor Swift wants to write music about her personal life and relationships, but it’s time she start owning up to that and acknowledging that  she’s aware of her influence in the world. That she fully understands that while she may stay out of the gossip loop, these songs will be fodder for speculation and rumors for days. I don’t think her songs coincidentally stir up drama, I believe it’s all very purposeful and all part of a very smart marketing strategy.

Girls don’t need perpetual victims as role models — they need strong, powerful woman who are proud to say that their hard work and commitment to their dreams led to them being named Billboard’s top money earner in 2011.

Taylor Swift’s a strong woman with amazing accomplishments and it’s time she started acting like it.

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  • Matt

    You are one of the reasons she doesnt pay attention to gossip. She just wants to be happy and live her life. Nothing wrong with that.

    • Jenni

      So if her being happy means other people are unhappy, that’s okay? You can’t start rumors and then pretend like someone’s offending you by responding to them.

    • tiff

      LOL u need to just shut upppp and worry about your own life, and leave taylor alone. The fact is, shes out there entertaining millions of fans and making a hell lot of money than you. Her job isn’t easy. The fact that she got to where she is because she worked hard for it, and thats why people like her. Sure she may write about her personal life and it may effect other people, but those people are celebrities, do u actually think they are going to be scarred their whole lives just because someone wrote a song about them? LOL. plus i’d rather have her write songs about her life then doing drugs or getting pregnant at 16 (aka miley cyrus and jamie spears) Your article just reeks of jealousy.

    • Jenni

      Was it that obvious that I’m jealous? It’s just that, I don’t know, I just wish my parents pushed me harder when I was younger. If they had, I might be famous by now. If only!

  • Me

    You’re so annoying. I still really don’t see why you hate Taylor Swift so much. I guess you are a natural cynic and she is so obviously not a cynic that you can’t help but hater her. At the same time though, I really feel you are in the minority and that most people see her positive (if naive-like) attitude a little refreshing. I mean, I truly believe that this is her personality, 100%. She might play it up a bit, but what you see is what you get with Taylor. That’s just my opinion and one of the reasons I like her.

    • Jenni

      I assure you that based on the comments I usually get, I am definitely in the minority!

  • allie

    I for one completely agree with you. It’s not about her trying to stay positive, it’s about her acting like a child by not wanting to own up to her actions. If you don’t want people to gossip you don’t write a spiteful song you know will make someone look bad. And if you do OWN it. She just seems like the bratty girls in high school who were fake nice all the time. And her music isn’t even that good. Her whole facade is very damaging for the young girls that look up to her it says “do what you want, you’re never wrong, since your a girl you can always play the victim card and look cute doing it”. Ugh she makes me sick.
    I think someone like Beyonce is a way better role model than her, and that’s not really the kind of music I’m into either. But I can at least respect Beyonce.

    • Jenni

      Exactly, thank you!

      It’s like spreading a middle school rumor about a friend and then saying you can’t possibly fathom why she’s crying in the bathroom. Therefore, you won’t worry about it because you personally hate drama.

    • allie

      Ugh exactly! It makes me sad that we’re the same age since she acts like an immature 14 year old. It also makes me sad that she has buttloads of money for acting like an immature 14 year old.
      Ok maybe I’m slightly bitter because I try to be a mature adult and contribute to society but make roughly the same amount a month that she spends on mascara and manicures. Putting my own bitterness aside Taylor Swift is still a nauseating human being.

    • Jenni

      She doesn’t just make buttloads of money, according to Billboard, she makes the MOST money.

    • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

      She was a young girl from upstate Penna. Have you ever been there? It’s yesteryear there even though it’s within driving distance of Philadelphia.

    • Jenni

      I’ve driven through Penn, so I do know it! When she first started getting big, I could buy the small-town act. But now’s been in the industry for years now and she’s dated A-list celebs. She’s not so small-town anymore.

    • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

      Hey you can take the gal out of upstate Penna but you can’t take upstate Penna out of the gal.

      I went through there on a horseback riding trip to the Appalchian Trail and I wanna tell you, the stories I could tell you about where we stopped to put up a tent and camp out for the night, in the mid 60′s, you wouldn’t believe. Sheriff’s telling us begone by sunrise, and other horror tales. Driving through doesn’t cut it Jenni, not at all. And I was Philly girl.

    • allie

      I stopped buying her small town act around the same time I stopped buying her “surprised” face whenever she wins anything “OH MY GOODNESS ME?! I’M JUST A LITTLE GIRL AND YOU WANT TO HONOR ME??? I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE IN MY OWN TALENT SO I AM JUST SO GOSH DARN SHOCKED THAT YOU WOULD CHOOSE ITTY BITTY OLD ME….for the millionth time, and I still stay shocked”

  • Jaclyn

    Thank you!! I think that any man exploiting his relationships the same way would catch boatloads of hell over it. She exploits her relationships and the men she gets involved with and then wants to act like her “songs” are part of her healing process and it’s personal to her. It’s not personal, Hooker. A million 13 year old girls are walking around singing about it. Grow up. You’re a shitty role model for young girls.

  • Realistic

    Thank you! About time someone calls this spiteful immature girl on her crap! If she’s going to make “revenge songs” and call people out for “wronging” her, she needs to OWN it! What she did here was the equivalent of sticking her fingers in her ears and go “LaLaLaLaLaLa!” She’s no “role model”. The only thing she teaches is not to take any responsibility for your actions. Nothing is Ever her fault

  • Mandie

    Why do you write about Taylor swift if you dislike her so much you bully? Is there no other material you’re capable of writing?

    • Jenni

      No there isn’t. I got my degree in Taylor Swift Bullying so I’m legally not allowed to write about anything else.

    • Mandie

      What a baby you can’t answer with the truth

    • Jenni

      Isn’t it enough that I just learned to walk?

    • Mandie

      Haha okay at least your funny lol

  • cupcake

    Jenni! I love your posts, i think you are fantastic! i absolutely loathe taylor swift, i think she’s completely inauthentic.. there are allegations she cheated on harry and connor as well, she is no sweetheart as she’s been branded

    • Jenni

      Thanks for reading! I’m always happy to hear from people who see through Taylor like I do. There aren’t too many of us out there.

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  • BrittanyLouis

    Actually “John” is what we call people who don’t have a name. So Dear John doesn’t have to be about him. Based on the lyrics, it seems like it’s about him but if she had made it a touch more vague it could have been believable.

    • Jenni

      Sure John is used to describe an anonymous person, but it’s the name of her ex. And she’s also made a career out of singing about her ex-boyfriends. So it would’ve been pretty ditzy of her to use that name and NOT intend for people to think it’s about him.

    • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

      Here are my lyrics for John Mayer to write a song about Taylor Swift: http://focusfree.blogspot.com/2011/08/lyrics-for-john-mayershotgun-eyes.html