• Fri, Sep 7 2012

Positive Chris Brown News Released On The Night He Kissed Rihanna

For months now, we’ve heard rumors of a reconciliation between Chris Brown and Rihanna. Between the tweets laced with semi-hidden messages and the heartfelt interviews with tearful confessions, last night’s kiss at the 2012 VMAs seemed inevitable.

However inevitable isn’t a synonym for acceptable. For every obvious reason I don’t condone their rekindled relationship — whether it be friendly or romantic. But just like in the case of Will Arnett and Amy Poehler separating, no one consults me before making horrible decisions about their personal life.

While bloggers around the world spend today trying to decide if their kiss was a friendly hello or a public confession, I’m more intrigued by the positive press Chris Brown received yesterday from a domestic violence center.

According to Global Grind, he’s a frequent visitor to the Jenesse Center and their CEO only had wonderful things to say about him.

“It is our focus on family violence and its impact on youth that compelled us to open our hearts and our doors to Chris Brown and his mother, Joyce Hawkins. Chris and his mom have spent many quiet hours at our facilities, no cameras, no special attention or entourages – they just came to learn. Jenesse is thankful to Chris for spending time with our youth and celebrating the end of summer and returning back to school.”

After writing several blog this year expressing my disappointment with Chris Brown for not doing more to aid the victims of domestic violence, I have to apologize. Clearly he spent time doing some kind of repentance by volunteering there — and I’m thrilled to hear this.  One of my biggest issues with him is not that he beat up Rihanna, but that he twisted around the situation so that he came out as the victim.

So yes, it’s great to hear that he’s working with actual victims and hopefully getting some kind of understanding as to why he’s actually not the wronged person in this situation.

With that said, I can’t help but suspect that this news came out as a way to soften our hearts as he publicly reunites with Rihanna. That some publicist thought it might help cynical people like myself accept their relationship if we see that he’s working toward redemption. That he’s actively trying to make up for what he did to Rihanna.

And I guess it works in the sense that I can no longer say he’s done nothing beyond court-required community service. However, to really move forward on my path of forgiveness, he’d need to address his work with victims publicly and tell us what he’s learned from his time there. I want to hear him say that hitting Rihanna was wrong. Regardless of what she did or said, hitting her was wrong.

I want him to tell all his millions of followers who triumphantly cheer all of his actions under the banner of Team Breezy that violence is never the answer and that no one should stand for it. And then, after he’s done that, I can maybe stop cringing every time I hear about him dating Rihanna again.

(Photo: Pacific Coast News)

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  • BabyStew

    The only problem with him going public is that the public is going to be cynical, like your initial reaction was, and say oh this is a PR stunt. Though it clearly seems like it is not.

    • Jenni

      Of course. It’s hard to write about a man who beat up a woman and showed no remorse for years without being cynical.

      So I see what you’re saying, but it’s a hard situation.

    • Flossy

      My sentiments exactly

    • Missy

      You feel he didnt show remorse. I guess him pleading guilty wasnt enough. I guess him working with many domestic violence charities wasnt enough. I guess him cleaning trash on the road wasnt enough. I guess him losing weight, and crying in his album Graffitti for forgiveness wasnt enough. I guess him being blackballed and blacklisted by every store, artist, and producer wasnt enough. At the end of the day, this young man is 23, and owes you nothing. These young people do not need adults tearing them down, and casting them away. People counted Chris out, and he worked hard to show that he is working to better himself, and he repaired his relationship with his fans and Rihanna. That’s all that matters, not bloggers who didnt care for his well being to begin with. Point out one interview or article where Chris took his actions lightly or didnt take responsibility….

    • Brian

      You are so right. I agree completely. I am encouraged that smart, credible people are supporting him now. The Jenesse Center, Best Buddies, Break The Cycle, Sociology Lecturer Tamara Nopper, even Perez Hilton wrote a positive piece today. It’s good to see. This columnist on crushable seems to have low regard for the truth. She says he never admitted he was wrong for what he did. That’s just completely false. Tell the truth, people.

  • BabyStew

    We can debate on him not showing remorse but I think good deeds should be expected to go unnoticed and it seems that he has been a frequent visitor for the past three years so that is nice and hopefully he does learn something from these kids because just a few years ago he was in the same position of being a youth victimized by domestic violence in his own home. Hopefully he can tell the young men that hitting a woman is never ok and try to do his part to break the cycle in his life and the lives of the kids.

  • Missy

    Chris does a lot, and also has addressed this issue with his fans. But he is a private person, and has not done it for a photo op or recognition. He has worked with so many charities, and TeamBreezy has helped him along the way, holding fundraisers, etc. Just because you dont see it and read about it, doesnt mean he hasnt made changes to better himself. Keep in mind that Chris owes you nothing. He owed Rihanna forgiveness, as well as his fans, family, and people he let down. If you are concerned with the timing that this news came out, maybe you should have reported it years ago when he began this journey. The cause of that is due to what the media chooses to publish. All of Chris’ good deeds go unnoticed, and his flaws shine. Proceeds from Chris’ tours, merchandise, album sales, goes to his Symphonic Love organization, which works with domestic violence organizations. I urge you and other bloggers to do your research. It’s simple if truly you want to search for unbiased results.

    • Brian

      Your comment is very wise and understanding. i agree with you 100%.

  • Missy

    TeamBreezy knows that violence is not alright. I believe people with half a brain know. Chris himself knows his actions were wrong, and took responsibility for them, pleading guilty. His fans do not need him to shout to the world to know its wrong, that is commonsense. I think you all have condemned him enough. Let him grow through his personal experiences, and tend to your own. Whether or not you cringe at what Chris chooses to do with Rihanna, the fact remains that it is none of your concern. Nor will his past define his future. I suggest you climb over your own personal disdain and recognize that no sin is greater than another. Mind your business.

  • Brian

    First, it baffles me that people believe he never said he was wrong, never apologized and never showed remorse? That’s completely inaccurate and spreading false rumors. Here’s just one example, what he said on GMA with Robin Roberts on 11/3/09 and then aired in a longer piece on 20/20.

    I was wrong for what I did and I would definitely say it was not something I look past or look over… something that was really, really touchy.And like I said I’m really, really sorry for what went down and what happened.I think what it is when people see me smiling and kind of nonchalantly giving answers… I’m human, really I’m like really hurting inside and… it really kind of is like devastating me.

    Second, It’s ignorant and lacking in compassion and understanding of human nature if you judge his capacity for remorse by his demeanor during interviews. Think about how you would feel if you were 19 years old, had abused the woman you love, disgraced your family, been attacked in the press every day, received death threats, had lived your childhood seeing your mother abused – and were under the spotlight on national TV expected to talk about this issue? Wouldn’t you be a bit scared and closed up? Ashamed? Reticent?

    Why do we expect this young man to be an articulate spokesperson on an issue that is the most sensitive and painful in his life – that’s between Chris and a therapist or clergy, or close trusted friends and family. Reporters aren’t shrinks. It’s not kind or fair to expect him to open up to the media so easily about something so deeply personal. Especially when they continue to report inaccuracies and cynical mean-spirited stories about him, and don’t report about all the generous work he does in the community (not for community service hours) like MISSY eloquently mentioned.

    Third, it speaks volumes that the CEO of a very well-respected domestic violence intervention program is supporting Chris and saying that he is learning and growing there for the past three years. That’s enough for me to believe in him. The fact that they are accepting of him, welcoming him quietly for three years without press means there is a lot of growing and learning that the public doesn’t know about Chris Brown. And a charity as highly regarded as Jenesse would not be a part of a PR stunt.

    BTW, that event had nothing to do with “the kiss”. It was the day the before the VMAs!

    Give this guy a break. He should not be shamed and attacked anymore. There is something called redemption and forgiveness- and those are beautiful things. It’s clear he’s been changing, growing up and getting help. Do the research. Give him the support and encouragement he deserves.

    • Jenni

      What do you think of his new tattoo of a battered woman on his neck? That doesn’t show remorse to me. It shows that he got a badge of his power, a sign to everyone that he can beat a woman up and still have a successful career.

  • Michael

    Who cares if you forgive him?

    • Jenni

      It doesn’t matter if I personally forgive him. It matter that so many people in general forgive him because it’s symptomatic of a larger problem in society — a society that puts talents before morals.

    • http://twilightirruption.blogspot.com/ abbeysbooks

      Yes. I’ve never listened to his music. Does it reflect this?