• Sun, Aug 5 - 11:27 am ET

I’m So Proud of Mika For Finally Coming Out As Gay And Not Bi

Mika has spent many years refusing to bow to speculation about his sexuality, telling reporters either that he’s not interested in labels, or that they can just save themselves the questions and refer to him as bisexual. But in a recent interview with Instinct, he decided to take a more proactive step and come out as gay.

“If you ask me am I gay, I say yeah. Are these songs about my relationship with a man? I say yeah. And it’s only through my music that I’ve found the strength to come to terms with my sexuality beyond the context of just my lyrics. This is my real life.”

I don’t even know where to start with how much I love this. First of all, I respect Mika immensely for the way he stayed private about his sexuality. That’s his right as an individual, and he was never rude or standoffish with the media about it, he just politely refused to discuss it. He was never in the closet or denying anything about himself, which actually takes immense bravery as well.

And then the fact that his music is what’s helped him come to terms with his sexuality? I love that! For me, that means he’s a true artist, who’s putting so much of himself into his music that it’s actually helping him expand as a person. He’s using it to find out things about himself, and he’s honest enough to keep putting it out there. I think that’s great! I love that he trusts his fans and critics enough to reveal this aspect of himself, and I hope they reward him in the best way possible — by letting it not be the non-issue that it is.

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  • grace kelly

    oh ,I love the way you commented his coming out . I really appreciate it :)
    And I guess the song which helped him the most is ” The Origin Of Love” . Such a beautiful and honest song .

    btw we (his most loyal fans ) are also very proud of him!

  • Jeffrey Daniel Rollin-Jones

    How sad that again, bisexuality is seen merely as a stage in the process of coming out of gay. I don’t blame Mika for either not understanding, or not admitting, that he was gay until now, but some of us really *are* bisexual, thanks.

    • Diana

      I agree with Jeffrey Daniel. Alexis, you make it sound like he was hiding something or being indecisive on the way to coming out gay. If you do some research on this, you might be surprised to find out bisexuals actually experience more stress, isolation, discrimination, and rejection than either gay or straight people. I’m not attacking, just trying to give you information. The belief that bisexuals don’t really exist and are just on the fence or playing with sexuality are myths that makes life for bisexuals difficult.

    • Naomi

      THIS.

  • Hayley

    So Mika’s now come out as gay? I’m totally stunned…. How D-listish of him to announce it when he’s about to release a new album.

    • M Mastin

      So if it was just publicity for his third album, then what about the other two?
      If it was just to sell records, why didn’t he come out sooner, when the first or second albums were due. In 2007 it would have been huge news and he’d have been on the front of all the tabloids.
      But Mika has never been all about the publicity. He has times when he isn’t around at all, because he’s away working on new songs. I think he’s the best celebrity ever, because he doesn’t behave like a typical celeb.
      It so happens that, because of the third album, there is more interest in him atm and more interviews. But he’s been with his lover for a while and now feels ready to say, what most of us guessed anyway.
      Good luck to him and I wish him great joy in his relationship.
      Now we can talk about the music and leave the rest alone.

  • Kodes100

    Bravo Alexis Rhiannon. What a great article.

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      Thank you!

  • Milda

    It’s so nice to see at least one article without any prejudice and irony, thank you!! I’m so sick of all these “what a shock”, “he needs to promote his album” and “I knew it already” comments. Stop it, people! He came out not because of you and he doesn’t care if you knew it already or not. He came out because he has a boyfriend, feels happy like never before and wants to share his happiness with the rest of the world, like most people want to do when they are in love. I’m so happy for Mika!

  • Will

    Nope…nothing to be proud of here. Either have the balls to come out from the get-go – inspiring others at the possible risk of your success – or make no comment at all. This guy made the cynical move to hide behind the guise of being ‘bisexual’ for years. Only now his career has waned does the feel the need to ‘fearlessly’ announce his sexuality. Whatever.

  • Anon

    I respect that he would stay private about his private life, or come out as anything honestly. I wish gay celebrities would not say they are bisexual and prefer to not use labels altogether because it hurts bisexual representation in the media.