So yesterday, in-between shooting scenes for Castle, Nathan Fillion spontaneously decided to do a test-run of a Reddit AMA. Because it was Captain Tightpants, Redditors were willing to overlook the fact that he accidentally posted the thread in r/denver (because he was using an app) and they showered him with praise, questions ranging from soda choice to how Firefly has affected every role since, and reaction .gifs of his face. Nathan took it all in stride, especially the weirdness of getting Mal Reynolds .gifs in response to his answers, but he was sure to not lead fans on when the inevitable Serenity 2 and Dr. Horrible 2 questions came up. In addition, he firmly put his foot down when the issue of fan expectations came up.
One Redditor posted on behalf of blogger Jenny Lawson, better known as The Bloggess. Apparently she put out a request to Nathan to take a photo of himself holding some twine (?!) half a year ago, and he never responded. I don’t blame him, since it’s an odd thing to ask when it sounds as if they’ve never actually interacted, online or in-person. Before I get more into The Bloggess, here was Nathan’s reaction when asked about the twine:
Sigh. Please understand. I’m an actor. I act, tell stories, all for a living. My job is not to respond to every demand placed upon me from an audience on the Internet. I don’t do those things because I don’t feel it’s right to ask. I don’t ask those things of my gardener, the guy at the car wash, or the kid who bags my groceries. Why ask it of someone because they are an actor? Is that being fair? The argument could be made that its only one request, but then how many people would be unhappy that it wasn’t their request I responded to? Not all actors care about things like this, but I do. It’s just a product of my experience. The more people push, the meaner it gets, the more uncomfortable it is for me. Thank you for letting me get that off my chest. I hope we can all put it in the past with no hard feelings. I don’t have any.
And once again, Nathan remains classy even when dealing with a hoary subject like this.
It’s fascinating to see how, with such a charming and generous guy, he obviously has buttons you don’t want to press. At first I thought this sounded a bit harsh, but as I did more research into The Bloggess, she comes across as way invasive and weird. This post of hers has the most context, though it’s not the most recent. I think she’s trying to come across as quirky and inventive, asking for twine rather than an autograph, but her expectations are unwieldy. She jokes (?) about being offended because she once tweeted to Nathan to meet her at a pizza place when they were in the same town, saying that she’d take his lack of response as confirmation. He didn’t tweet back at her because why would he, and now she plays it off like he stood her up. And maybe she’s going for hyperbolic humor, but as someone who is not good at being funny, I see it all just falling flat.
If you continue scrolling through this specific comment thread, the other Redditors agree that The Bloggess seems to either lack the social intelligence to understand how pushy her request is, or she’s doing it in order to fend off publicists bugging her to post photos of celebs posed with weird objects. Because she has succeeded in getting pics of Matthew Broderick and Wil Wheaton posing with spatulas… Basically, it’s perfect occasion for the .gif above.