Parenting Lessons From Teen Mom: ‘Denial’ Is Not Just The Name Of The Local Trailer Park

Everyone on this show is so in denial! Farrah thinks it’s all her mom Debra‘s fault for pissing her off, when it’s Farrah who eggs her on at every opportunity. Tyler‘s dad Butch says perhaps the greatest quote I’ve heard in the year or so that I’ve been recapping Teen Mom (and Teen Mom 2!). And Amber seems to think after 46 days she can totally leave rehab and live with Gary and Leah again. Oh, and Ryan doesn’t believe that little Bentley needs preschool, much to Maci‘s chagrin. Let’s just dive in, shall we?

Teen Mom 4x06 "Temper Tantrums" Amber rehab hypnosis dad shut your mouth bitch Gary Leah


DO: Take the good with the bad

At this point, Amber has been in rehab for 46 days. Originally she was going to do a month, but she agreed to extend it to two. With two weeks left til she’s coming home, Gary has a long talk with his mom. She doesn’t believe that Amber will come home with enough change, but Gary makes a really good point about any possible setbacks his ex might have:

“I want to see the downs, because then I know it’s not fake. If all I saw were ups, I would know that there’s still work that needs to be done. She’s being real about herself.”

DON’T: Be impulsive

Amber starts getting antsy and wanting to go home before her 60 days are up, which is a little odd considering it’s only two weeks extra. You have to wonder about any ulterior motive. I will say that she looked kinda high while telling her counselor J.J. that she wanted to leave… but maybe it’s just whatever drugs they might have her on. It was just a weird juxtaposition for her to be mumbling her way through the reasons she’s ready to leave, when she’s clearly not.

DO: Watch your words

Part of the reason that Amber’s counselors won’t sign off on her leaving early is that earlier that week she got angry at someone in discussion group. As another counselor points out, if she were to do that in the real world — just scream at someone — that could still be construed as verbal assault.

DO: Try unconventional methods

In a supremely weird scene, J.J. takes Amber through hypnosis, instructing her to repeat to herself, “What am I unwilling to let go of that’s keeping me from being free?” She ends up on a stream-of-consciousness ramble about her dad calling her a bitch and telling her, “Shut your mouth,” and ultimately comes to the conclusion that she needs those two weeks. It seems like it often comes back to the fathers on 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom.

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    • L

      there’s a french bulldog involved?!?!?!? MUST TIVO.

    • bre

      Farrah doesn’t realize that she is parenting Sophia EXACTLY the way her mom parents her, (sans stupid voice) and that Sophia will grow up to treat her EXACTLY like she treats her own mom. I hate how she is always telling Sophia “say this” and “say that” and sharing information she is too young to be hearing. Yes, I realize a lot of it goes over the kid’s head now, but it will be a hard habit to break. I long for the day when Sophia turns into a mouthy, angry, joyless snot, just like Mommy…and Grandma…and Auntie.

      • Jules

        I disagree. Even Supernanny makes kids apologize after their timeout. I think Farrah is the most mature, rational parent on the show (I know that’s not saying a whole lot but…) Also, I think her mom is a whack job and Farrah keeps trying to mend fences but it’s obvious she still hasn’t forgiven her mom for some stuff and the mom is the fucking Queen of the land called passive agressiva

      • Kimberly @ Twen-Teen

        Farrah’s parenting of Sophia is laughable. She has serious talks with her as if she’ll understand and overall treats her like a dog.

    • RCIAG

      Ugh, I HATE Ryan. To him that kid is a possession to battle over with Maci. If any kid on this show needs to be with other children for a few hours a day, it’s Bentley. That kid is, as Maci has said, Velcro’d to her.

      I don’t understand his displeasure with the kid getting some socialization skills & maybe learning how to spell his stupid name. It’s almost like if he goes to pre-school it means Maci “wins” in some fashion.

      As for Farrah, I agree, she’s gonna grow up to do the exact same thing to Farrah that Farrah does & has done to her mom.

      Not that mom is a lot better than Farrah, but that episode made Farrah & her sister come off as uber-bitches. I just don’t get why they treated her the way they did & maybe that’s the point but it’d be nice to have a little more background on that whole life ruining thing.

      Butch, you stay classy brother!! Best. Line. Ever.

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