Maybe You Have Every Right To Be A ‘Mean Girl’ When Your Heart Has Been Broken

When you think of “mean girls,” what do you picture? Outside of the movie that bears the same name, does any celebrity, or perhaps songstress, come to mind?

Over at EW, Lanford Beard seems to think that both Katy Perry and Taylor Swift fall into the “mean girls” category because of their ultra-confessional songs about the famous men with whom they were in relationships. But as artists, isn’t that their job? Are they not supposed to take what they know best — in these cases she mentions it’s heartache — and use it to not only heal themselves but to relate to their audience? The answer: Yes.

While Beard admits that Adele also bared her soul regarding a breakup that almost destroyed her with her album 21, she regards her efforts as “less tawdry” due to the fact that she kept the identity of this particular man under wraps. In comparison, both Perry and Swift were in high-profile relationships with messy break-ups tracked by the media, so it only makes sense that they publicly display how they were affected by it. It’s not revenge; it’s honesty. It’s not being a “mean girl”; it’s putting your heart out there and trying to make sense of the pieces no matter who’s to blame for the dissolving of the relationship.

Just because Adele didn’t blab to the universe the name and number of the man who broke her heart, she shouldn’t get her own special place in the world. While we can credit her for tact, we can’t give her some sort of extra special permission simply because she didn’t fall for a Russell Brand or John Mayer. Do we need to count how many Grammys Adele won or how much she made from that album before we start accusing Swift and Perry of “capitalizing on it, wallowing in it for personal and financial gain”? Well, if you want to we can, but it will be a waste of energy.

Every great love story, whether it be in music, film or book, was probably inspired in one way or another by a real-life relationship. Once we start deciding who’s allowed to gain wealth and success because of how they went about expressing their pain, then we’re being just as petty as we accusing these artists of being. If someone fucks you over, stomps on your heart, or twists a knife in your back, you may have just earned your right to be a “mean girl.” And if that involves writing a song that has your ex’s name in the title (“Dear John”—ha!), then so be it. Maybe after being publicly humiliated, these men will conduct their next relationships differently; maybe they’ll be less reckless with a heart that’s not their own to mishandle.


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    • Mike

      Very good article and I completely agree. Artists are here to express themselves and these three young ladies are some of the best at it. I hope They sing and write forever.

    • mARK

      Yea, Yea, Yea..But Taylor Swift is a whore and can’t keep her teen crushes a secret. She blabs it to the media and writes just about every boy.

      The boy from Tim McGraw song, Drew, Joe Jonas, John Mayer, Tebow, Effron, Lautner, Jake, Patrick, Adam…

      Oh and it’s funny how were going to here a new song called “I Bet You Still Think Of Me”…She is so “conceited”.

      She is possesive “mine” “ours” “you belong with me”..She’s a clingy whiny ass bitch. I bet she makes the man wear a leash, and shock collar. I bet her boys can’t party, or hang out with their friends.

    • Lou

      This is complete BS. When the person in the relationship is known, it is no longer a song of personal heartbreak, it is revenge. The singer knows the impact the song will have on the other person’s career and reputation and it is a one-sided account of the facts. To me this is a sign of immaturity and pettiness. If I were a man, I would definitly stay away from these women who just cannot keep anything private nor assume accountability for their part in the demise of the relationship.

    • Cody

      Hey Idiot. You realize that Lanford Beard is a woman, and not a man? Next time do a little research and renew your medication for Foot in Mouth disease…

      • Amanda Chatel

        Oh, you creative, li’l monkey! Such a fancy word “idiot” is!

        Actually, you may want to reread that… in only one place was the “s” missing from the pronoun “she,” therefore making it “he” accidentally. Do you know what a pronoun is?

        It was a minor error which has been fixed, people make mistakes… just like you for being not so original with your comment.

        Have a great day in your parents’ basement, Cody!

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