DON’T: Pretend that what’s good for you is good for your kid
Farrah’s primary issue in these two episodes was wanting to move to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. Last season she wrestled with whether to leave Sophia with her parents while she attended culinary school. However, from the first few scenes it’s clear that she wants to bring Sophia with her. She also seems to bristle at the idea of having her family support her and Sophia instead of striking out on her own.
I don’t know enough about Farrah to judge either way; I’m not saying that it’s a bad decision to bring Sophia with her. After all, she is the girl’s mother; a separation might be a lot more detrimental for them. My only insight was that Farrah should make sure she’s making the decision with Sophia’s best interests in mind. You can also see the ongoing tension between Farrah and her own mother, as they second-guess each other’s motivations: The mom thinks Sophia will be isolated if she’s taken out of her normal environment, whereas Farrah thinks her mom is trying to scare her out of moving.
DO: Support your child
As the episode concludes, Farrah’s mom accepts her decision, and Farrah’s dad even helps her move. We have yet to see if the decision bites her in the ass, but I’m glad her parents are so supportive at the start.
DON’T: Milk tragedy for the cameras
Maybe long-time Teen Mom fans can help out with this—are Farrah’s visits to Derek‘s grave a good thing for Sophia? Obviously yes, for Sophia to get to know her father, even his memory, is a good idea. But it’s uncomfortable when we see multiple “scenes” of Farrah doing this on-camera. Perhaps it’s part of her contract, that she can’t slip away without MTV following along. It’s just difficult to watch.