• Sat, May 12 2012

I Attended A 50 Shades Of Grey BDSM Workshop

Last night, I attended a BDSM workshop called “50 Shades Of Hot Sex.” I didn’t really learn anything I didn’t know about BDSM already, but I was heartened to see a whole bunch of people who’ve gotten their ideas about BDSM from a terrible book guided by the ever-responsible hand of Babeland, New York’s premiere woman-friendly sex shop.

The workshop (which was actually more of a talk) was led by a Babeland employee who’s been active in New York’s BDSM community for quite some time. Looking around, I saw an assortment of much more “regular” looking people than you’d expect at a BDSM workshop, sipping vodka cranberries and paying attention. (Yet more were milling around the front of the store being super loud and not listening at all, but whatever.) I know that reactions to the book in the BDSM community have been mixed, but the educator seemed all for it, saying she’s glad it’s opened so many people up to exploring whatever kinks they may have.

Assuming most people present knew very little about the subject (reading 50 Shades Of Grey doesn’t really count), she started off with the basic essentials, going over the definition of BDSM, “tops” and “bottoms”, and safe words. She next went over a few very basic BDSM practices and why someone might want to engage in them, holding up a Babeland product or two for each. These included:

-Remote controlled vibrators you can wear out in public, like the We-Vibe. Having tried one out once, I’m not sure how good the We-Vibe would actually be for this, but I didn’t like it in general, so maybe I’m a bad judge of its uses.

-Restraints, like Babeland’s “sophisticated and fancy” satin bondage kit or body safe cuffs. The educator took a minute to explain that Babeland doesn’t sell metal cuffs like the ones on the book cover because they’re dangerous, then went over how to make sure you don’t permanently damage someone’s wrists and hands when restraining them.

-Spanking! Babeland sells lots of paddles and floggers, or you could just use your hands. She instructed aspiring spankers to focus on the butt and thigh areas and avoid the spine and kidneys, for obvious reasons. She also went over the different sensations produced by paddles (“thuddy”) and floggers (“stingy”), stressing that sensations register differently for everyone, so we should play around and see what we like.

And then it was over. Folks went around touching everything in the store and asking bewildered questions about their uses. I’m guessing they sold quite a few restraints that night. I haven’t read the book, so I don’t really have an opinion on it, but from reviews I’ve read, it seems to be a somewhat incomplete primer on the BDSM lifestyle. Luckily for the legions of people who read it and got turned on, Babeland is there to guide them with a firm but gentle hand. The first workshops were so popular that they’re going to do some more in depth ones, so definitely check Babeland’s website if you’re interested.

 

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  • Jaeleen

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