What’s naughtier than black, lacy lingerie and a blonde wig? Black, lacy lingerie and a blonde wig in a house of God. Rihanna has officially entered her “Like A Prayer” rebellious Christian teen phase.
It would be perfectly fine if that was all that her rebellion consisted of, but she’s also going to hang out with bad dudes whether you want her to or not, dad! (Nevermind the fact that he’s basically a younger version of you.) On the topic of her continued contact with Chris Brown (and some people’s exasperated response to it), she told Elle:
I respect what other people have to say. The bottom line is that everyone thinks differently. It’s very hard for me to accept, but I get it. People end up wasting their time on the blogs or whatever, ranting away, and that’s all right. I don’t hate them for it. Because tomorrow I’m still going to be the same person. I’m still going to do what I want to do.
Fuck you, dad! She also talked about Brown’s 2009 attack on her (and the subsequent public revelation thereof) in terms that made it sound like it was potentially something for her to be ashamed of:
It gave me guns. I was like, well, fuck. They know more about me than I want them to know. It’s embarrassing. But that was my opening. That was my liberation, my moment of bring it. I wanted people to know who I am. Whatever they take that to be, good or bad, I just want them to know the truth…I have more freedom the more people know about me. It’s like, one less skeleton in the closet, one less burden, one less secret; now you know that, so you can say what you want about it. I don’t have anything to hide.
I’m glad Rihanna feels liberated by her lack of privacy, but there are some disturbing sentiments here. What happened to her should not be embarrassing to her, because it’s not her fault, and it’s certainly not who she is. We didn’t learn anything about Rihanna the person on that night other than the fact that one terrible thing had happened to her. To imply that people might judge her for getting the shit beaten out of her by her boyfriend implies that people might think it’s her fault, which is a fucked up way to think. (She was also, sadly, right.) Different people are also judging her for making nice with him, which is more understandable, but still wrong. And as you can see here (and like I’ve said before), trying to shame a woman into doing the healthy thing in this type of situation is only going to drive her closer to her abuser. So basically, everyone should stop treating Rihanna like a rebellious teen and maybe she’ll stop acting like one.