Cynthia Nixon has been getting major heat for comments she made last week that seemed to assert it’s a choice to be gay. Talking with The New York Times she explained she was asked to change a line in a speech she was giving that seemed to say being gay is a matter of choice saying, “they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.”
While trying to explain or define someone else’s sexuality is silly, it is inflammatory to talk about homosexuality as a choice since it gives homophobic people an easy out; they can say they’ll just convince gay men and women to choose to be straight. While Cynthia seemed adamant that she was speaking only for herself and she wasn’t going to change her story, she has come forward to give a little more explanation for her comments.
She explained to The Advocate, “While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.”
This statements seems to confirm what many were saying about Cynthia, that she has chosen who she wants to spend her life with, but the fact that she’s attracted to men and women is out of her hands. I’m predicting the next upset over Cynthia’s position will be her hesitance over using the world bisexual. There’s a lot of stereotypes attached to that orientation, among them that a person will call themselves a bisexual as a kind of stepping stone to coming out as gay. Cynthia of course has the right to define her sexuality in any way she feels comfortable, but as a successful actress who seems very comfortable with herself, it might help to dispel some of the stereotypes surrounding bisexuality if she more readily defined herself as one.