Text messaging is often the fastest way to communicate with friends and acquaintances, but it’s not always the best one. Especially when it comes to texting with guys. Here at Crushable we aim to help you sift through all the subtext and emerge relatively unscathed – with a little help from our friend Amanda Ernst.
Last week, I revealed that I have, from time to time, received unwanted and vulgar text messages. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t text at all,” I advised, before pointing out that it’s not possible to block someone from sending you text messages, like you would block someone from Facebook or instant messenger.
But, I was proven wrong. Commenter Kait said there is a way to block numbers from being able to call or text your cell, at least for a few weeks or months at a time. While I’m all for blocking someone who is harassing you or stalking you via text, I’m apprehensive to block someone — like an recent ex, for example — who I told not to call or text me, but who I secretly hope will. Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation?
Sometimes I am great about resisting the urge to respond when I get a text from an ex or some guy I haven’t heard from in a long time. In those cases, I think, “What good would a response do at this point?” It’s not easy to resist a reply, but you feel great after you stick to your guns.
But, there are those guys who I do want to hear from, even when I tell them I don’t. “Don’t ever text me again,” I’ve said to a guy more than once, before turning and walking away — possibly forever. At the time, I’ve meant it. Then a few weeks go by, and I keep waking up on Sunday morning with no surprise late night text from my former suitor. Though I’ve been disappointed by the fact that I’m not hearing from him, I’m consoled by the fact that, if need be, he could get in touch with me. If he just had to tell me how much he missed me or was thinking about me, I would get that text or call. So, until those guys start sending me profanity-laced epithets, I won’t block from them forever. I just don’t want to.
Now, if they do ever text me, then I’ll be have to decide if I want to respond, and how. But at least I get the option, and in some cases that’s all I want.
What would someone have to do or say to you to get the block? Would you make exceptions? Leave your experiences in the comments below and you might see them featured in an upcoming installment of Textual Healing.