Textual Healing: Have You Ever Been Dumped By Text?

Textual HealingText messaging is often the fastest way to communicate with friends and acquaintances, but it’s not always the best one. Especially when it comes to texting with guys. Here at Crushable we aim to help you sift through all the subtext and emerge relatively unscathed – with a little help from our friend Amanda Ernst.

Listen, break-up texts happen. It happened to Charlie Sheen. And, if you are a 30 Rock fan, you know that Condoleezza Rice also has been dumped by text message.

But what comes after the text? A whole lot of expletives and possibly some crying, in my experience. While a face-to-face (or even over the phone) break-up has some sense of impending doom, a text message break-up can come out of the blue (“You + me = :(“). Still, a dumpee tends to go through the same stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and, finally, acceptance. Add a few “What did I do wrong?” and “Wonder what my ex is up to?” and you can pretty much describe every break-up.

But the question that arises from text break-ups is: what do you write back — if anything? It depends on the text. If it’s straight-forward enough, no response is required. Other times, a simple “F you” will at least make you feel better. But I’m someone who likes talk it through, so the succinctness and finality of break-up texts never really work for me. Note to anyone who wants to date me/possibly end our relationship through text messages: just stop texting me. It will just make the whole ordeal less awkward.

Have you ever been dumped by text? How did you respond — if at all? Have you ever dumped someone by text message? Leave your experiences in the comments below and you might see it featured in an upcoming installment of Textual Healing.

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    • cshugs

      i once had a mutual breakup where we both just stopped talking. and this wasn’t a “we’ve had three dates and we’re both not into it” situation – this was a “we’ve been going on dates and sleeping in the same bed 5 nights a week for 5 months” situation. it was the best and worst break up of all time… all my friends were telling me he’d call or text, but neither one of us reached out. haven’t seen him in over 2 years. saved a whole lot of awkwardness.

    • Jillian

      When I was a sophomore in high school and AIM was all the rage, I dumped my boyfriend via instant message. I feel like that is more humane than the text and take comfort in the fact that at least I know he was sitting in a comfortable office chair and only a few clicks away from warm, consoling arms of viral videos and internet porn.

    • curlysarah29

      Yes. Via text. On Valentine’s Day… classy, classy guy.

    • K.

      I had a live-in boyfriend of 7+ years dump me via gmail.

      I joked with my friends that the only thing more callous would’ve been a text message breakup, because at the time, I had no text plan. I would’ve had to pay Verizon 20¢ for that.

    • Stephanie

      via text 2 days before christmas. we were long distance and i’d just spent a weekend at his place a couple weeks earlier.

    • Cara

      When I was 16, my 20 year old boyfriend dumped me via text message. If I remember correctly, the text went something like this: “I’m sorry… I can’t do this anymore… *feels like an asshole*” I was devastated at the time, but many years later I found out that not only is he bipolar, but he is also gay. Now when I think about how pathetic the whole break-up was, I get a kick out of it. It’s just one of those embarrassing teenage stories.

    • Erin S.

      Ack. The text breakup is really crappy. Long distance dating for about a year, had been spending every weekend together for over 6 months, then out of the blue on a Wednesday: “This weekend isn’t going to work,” and nothing else. Being one of those “explain this to me, please” people, I asked for some clarification and heard nothing. Texting makes it too easy for cowards. And bastards.

    • Maggie

      This actually happened to a friend of mine: in her mid 40s she had been dating a very attractive mid 50s guy. Kind of a Richard Gere type – she sent me photos. No action after a month or so, and they had the ‘let’s just be friends talk’. Which was disappointing, but okay: she kinda suspected he was gay, and still in the closet. So she was okay with friends, cause he’s a smart, accomplished guy. THEN he sends her a text saying “I don’t know what deodorant you’re using, but it’s not working”. REALLY. I’ve known her since college: she does not have a B.O. problem. But now she is completely paranoid. Thanks, dude! And BTW, you are gay.

    • casper68qw

      all my friends were telling me he’d call or text, but neither one of us reached out. haven’t seen him in over 2 years. saved a whole lot of awkwardness.

    • Missy85

      Ouch. well does it count when we broke up over the phone, and then he got closure thru a text? It hurts when I sitll think about it. But thats cause it just happened at the end of Feb. I dont know.
      …Breaking up altogether sucks, no matter how its done.

    • Miss A.

      My ex broke up with me over text without giving me any explanation whatsoever. It was a low move that really stung. My reply? I left him a letter chewing him out a little, because he never let me say my part. I haven’t heard back from him since and probably never will, but I feel closure and that’s all that matters to me.

    • Lisa Vetrone

      I was married for 35 years. My husband started acting wack and wouldn’t admit he was cheating on me. I left and went to my daughter’s house. A week later he texts me and says: “We were just friends for a long time, (REALLY?) And then it just happened.” Nothing just effin’ happens! He’s is a coward and a flippin’ dog! Needless to say, I’m divorcing that P@$$Y!!!!

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