5 Facts From Markai Durham’s ‘No Easy Decision’ Abortion Special

Last night, MTV ran a show called No Easy Decision, which documented the decision of one 16 And Pregnant star who decided to get an abortion. Markai Durham, one of the stays of MTV’s third season of 16 And Pregnant, got pregnant again, shortly after giving birth to her daughter Zakaria. She decided to get an abortion, and MTV’s cameras were there to capture it.

This is the first time that the MTV show has followed a girl who got an abortion, and it’s sure to be controversial. What are the details that went into what happened here?

1. Markai didn’t understand how her birth control worked

Markai missed an appointment for her birth control shot and she and her boyfriend James didn’t use condoms. She didn’t realize how quickly the contraceptive would go out of her system, and she got pregnant again.

2. Markai would rather get an abortion than give her child up for adoption.

After becoming teen parents, Markai and James decided they couldn’t handle another child. During 16 And Pregnant, it didn’t look like Markai considered abortion at all:

“I knew abortion was out there. I just never thought it would be an option for me.”

But with one child already, she decided she couldn’t handle raising another. As she said:

“I don’t want her to struggle because of my mistake.”

Markai and James decided they couldn’t afford another child:

“Not only set ourselves up to fail. But set our kids up to fail…Let’s just be real. We can’t take care of another baby.”

And for Markai, abortion was more feasible than adoption:

“Adoption’s not an option for me…I’m in love with this baby already. And this baby’s doing nothing but making me sick.”

3. James thought of the baby as a “thing.” Which Markai couldn’t do.

When Markai went to get the abortion, a woman at the clinic advised her:

“Don’t think of it as ten fingers and ten toes with a forehead and all that stuff. Because if you think of it like that, you’re going to be depressed. Think of it as what it is – a little ball of cells.”

Apparently, thinking of the pregnancy as a child makes it harder to get over the decision to abort. But Markai’s reaction shows that that is not so easy. As when James tried to agree, saying:

“I told you that from the get go…I never called that thing a baby. Because I told you not to even think of it as a baby.”

Markai immediately got upset:

“Call that thing a baby. Alright, exactly what it is. A thing.”

Markai just could not see it as a medical procedure, pointing to her daughter, she told James:

“A thing can turn out like that….nothing but a bunch of cells can turn out to be her.”

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    • MarkaiMistake

      That girl made a horrible mistake. This isn’t “controversial.” It’s wrong. Absolutely wrong.

      • Amita

        Um, I think you might be on the wrong website. This was a well-written post about someone’s genuine ambivalence about a decision she was legally and morally free to make. You make no argument ..thanks for trolling!

    • SadMama

      What a very sad story. This woman will carry this with her forever. I agree with the previous poster, it was an absolutely wrong choice. If it was a “ball of cells” and not a baby, then she had a tumor and was not pregnant. I pray for her that she matures and is able to forgive herself for making the worst mistake a person could ever make.

    • Kay

      Ok everybody needs to stop hating!!! It was very brave of her to go on national TV and tell her story. That is not right to say she could of just given the baby up. Put yourself in her position and then tell me what you would do. It is so easy for people to say just give it up. You carry a child and give birth, look into their eyes and then tell me how easy it was to just give it up! So stop passing judgement unless you were put in her situation!

    • sad

      what she and her boyfriend did was wrong and sick, especially after seeing what a “ball of cells” can turn into.

    • Patrick

      Here is a poem from their baby:

      O mama mama believe me, mama don’t ever try to deceive me
      Can’t you feel the many tears I cry?
      O mama mama receive me, mama don’t ever try to leave me
      Cause I’m so young much too young to die.

      I hear those people speaking words, I just don’t understand
      But your heartbeat tells me something is wrong
      I don’t know what you plan to do, or just how much I mean to you
      But please remember I am me.

      O mama mama believe me, mama don’t ever try to deceive me
      Can’t you feel the many tears I cry?
      O mama mama receive me, mama don’t ever try to leave me
      Cause I’m so young much too young to die.

      Just to see the sunshine, just to breathe the air
      Would be so wonderful to be part of the world out there
      But will I ever feel your arms, look up into your eyes
      And tell me will you weep there when you’ve listened to their lies?

      I know you didn’t want me, you didn’t plan it this way
      But here I am, now doesn’t that change a thing?
      If I could only talk to you, make you see my point of view,
      O mama, can you hear me sing?

      O mama mama believe me, mama don’t ever try to deceive me
      Can’t you feel the many tears I cry?
      O mama mama receive me, mama don’t every try to leave me
      Cause I’m so young much too young to die.

      I’m so young much too young to die.

    • Lisa

      She said she was told that at 6 weeks it’s a clump of cells. That’s wrong, it’s already beyond that stage. At 6 weeks, it already has a heart beat and the brain is forming. Since when did a heart become a bunch of cells? I am prochoice and I believe in accurate and honest medical information not misinformation.

    • diamond

      I hate trolls, especially ones that bash other people’s decisions. If this decision isnt for you, then stop bitching because you are not the one going through it

    • AriannahsMUMMY

      This is her choice she just had a baby and I know being pregnant at 16 and having my baby at 17 I know how hard it is to be a young mum and I know that if i had of fell pregnant that I would have went the same way im not financially stable enough to look after two kids and i know that its hard enough with one let alone one straight after the other. Im against abortions but its a choice some need to make im just glad I didnt have to make that decison she is very brave and a great mum she just needs to stay strong.!

    • Leave Markai Alone

      People, stop judging. I too, am not sure that I would have made that choice if I was in her situation. But that’s the thing. I’m not in her situation, so who am I to pass judgement? Who are any of us? Everybody is different. And we don’t know how the life of that baby would have turned out. It could have compromised the quality of life of Markai, her boyfriend, and the child they already have. But it could not have. Who knows? No-one. So we should all just stop judging the poor girl because she didn’t take this decision lightly.

    • Sofia

      ,,,,ehm,,,,,how about using a normal contraceptive pill if they hate condoms, which is reasonable? I don’t get it