• Wed, Aug 25 2010

Memoir: Tiki Barber’s Girlfriend Traci Johnson Reveals The Truth Behind The Tabloid Stories

While I can’t speak for Tiki, at first I found the story about his and my relationship to be humorous. The scandalous headlines, such as “Sneaky Tiki” and factually incorrect details – like Tiki leaving his wife while she was eight months pregnant with twins – that graced the cover of “reputable” newspapers amused me. Amusing because I, quite frankly, knew the truth. I knew that Tiki didn’t leave Ginny when she was eight months pregnant for me. I knew that his relationship had deteriorated before my relationship with him was even a thought in his mind. I knew that I was never Tiki’s babysitter or that he “lavished” me with expensive gifts or snuck into my college dorm room (I lived on an all girl’s floor with a key swipe entrance … think how difficult it would be to sneak a 5’10, 200-pound, black man into that environment?). Plain and simple, the truth was and still is that Tiki and I never crossed the line of being inappropriate while he was married and nor was our relationship inappropriate now that he wasn’t.

The initial amusement that I had towards the story rapidly vanished when the truth didn’t come out. During this time Tiki and I were forced to hide away from everyone for fear of the press. We couldn’t go out to eat without it becoming tabloid news. I was quickly becoming exceedingly frustrated with the story and the way it was spiraling out of control. The truth wasn’t coming out, and in fact, more outlandish and ludicrous lies were being told and printed.

I remember one day, crying to Tiki, probably after reading a blog about us (which I promised Tiki I wouldn’t do), begging him to call the papers, to scream it from the top of 30 Rock, to simply tell the world the truth because I thought it was destroying me, him, and the potential future for our relationship together. Upon my request to vindicate not only myself, but him as well, Tiki, sat me down, placed his arm around me, and said, “Nothing that I can say will change their perception. Only time will.”

And while the stubborn, opinionated side of me hates to admit it, he was right.

Four months later we are still together and love each other more than before. We have our moments of discontent as any normal couple does, but for the most part we find happiness in each other and the simple pleasures of life. On an average night we find ourselves watching whatever we have rented from Netflix or enjoying an episode of Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman (yes, with or without Tiki’s permission, I will admit that we own the entire collection). Instead of loud and pretentious clubs, you can find us at a cozy wine bar with friends or playing in a co-ed softball league. If any restaurant requires a three-course meal or more we refuse to go and end up eating at a local pub right around the corner from our apartment. We stay up too late for any sane couple reading books in bed and we enjoy knowing that even if we are boring, we would both rather be bored with each other than doing something with someone else.

While it has been four months since the story of our relationship came out, people still are judging and opining on it. But these people have been influenced by the ignominious and outrageous stories that have been told about us. Everyone has the right to believe what they desire and Tiki and I both realize this. We simply just take solace and great joy in knowing that the people who know the true “Tiki and Traci” have loved and supported us every step of the way and we take even greater joy in making new friends who have learned to love the “real us.”

And in the end that is all that matters. A few good friends and one true love.

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  • tikifan

    But it sounds like he went from breaking up with his wife, right into your arms..that doesn’t just “happen” without other things happening prior. Whether it be texting, diners, or long lunches..it sounds like your relationship with Tiki blossomed while he was married.

    my guess is you guys realized a mutual attraction/chemistry and it probably influenced Tiki’s decision to finally pull the plug on his marriage. but at the same time i could believe that nothing physical happened between you guys while he was still with his wife..but cheating is not always just physical.

  • What Comes Around Goes Around

    I guess her parents raised a skank! Fairy tale? That is so stupid. When will trash like this learn? And that’s not even counting that POS she is with!

  • Candy Barr

    This is a hoot! This *itch is a journalist? Someone needs to seriously edit it. She obviously didn’t re-read it before posting it. I wonder how she feels now that he is broke. Hope you didn’t burn any bridges at NBC, because you might be working soon!

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  • Iggy

    Look, Tiki’s marriage was a mess for quite some time… as for his wife being pregnant, did it ever occur to any of you that the wife may have gotten pregnant on purpose, even though the couple had agreed not to have any more children, as a disgusting attempt to try to force Tiki to continue the marriage?

    Now Tiki isn’t going to talk about this publicly, because he doesn’t want it on the public record that he hadn’t wanted to have any more children, but I know that I would be furious if MY wife, in the middle of a troubled marriage, tried to sneakily have more kids, despite our decision not to do so… so once Tiki got to know Traci, younger, hotter, more appealing in every way… why not just make a clean break with that awful Ginny woman?

    In any event, women should take it as a given once they’ve had kids and gotten into their thirties that their men are going to need some side action from women who are still in their prime (18 to 26).

  • Nicole Czarnecki

    I agree that Traci Lynn Johnson cannot write well. I also agree that Traci Lynn Johnson did indeed babysit Tiki Barber’s children and use her position as babysitter (and also her position as NBC intern) to knowingly attempt to seduce a married man with four children. She doesn’t even talk about Tiki’s children. By the way, I went to a Catholic college where guys were snuck in all the time, swipe card or not– we had swipe cards, and guys would still be snuck in (as my then classmates even bragged about at times).

    She didn’t even try to come up with a dastardly excuse like, “The two other children weren’t even his.” She and Tiki could’ve tried something like that were they clever– but the fact that Ginny banned (and had to ban) Tiki Barber from the room would’ve blown holes through any kind of “Ginny cheated first” excuse, anyway.

  • Miss N.

    I went to High School with her, and even then, she was a shallow, attention-grabbing four-letter-word I won’t-type.

    There is no excuse for either her or Tiki’s behavior. Don’t you all see? She’s in it for the money and the attention. Clearly, her writing skills (or lack thereof) won’t make her a damned dime, so she has to ruin marriages and families to get what she wants.

    Pathetic.

    • Nicole Czarnecki

      So, are her parents like Brad Pitt’s parents–that is, they’re sucking it up and only pretending to approve of this? I’m just curious; you know the situation better than most of us do. All the majority know is that she was complicit in helping a married man cheat on his college sweetheart and eight-months-pregnant wife.