We just ran across this article on YourTango.com, declaring the five things that men don’t like about single women. The list — which included flakiness, over-the-top independence, biological clock, hypocrisy and treating a pet like a boyfriend — reminded us that these are the exact same things that drive us crazy about single men. Here’s what we mean:
1. Flakiness. The fact that guys find this irritating about women is laughable. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve fallen asleep waiting for a phone call or text message from a guy, or been stood up or even had to wait around for 30 minutes because my date got caught up in something better. If women are flakey to men, it’s just giving them a taste of their own medicine. Plus, women go out of their way to act not needy, and in an effort to defy that stereotype, maybe we sometimes go too much in the opposite direction. Here’s a thought: why don’t you speak up and tell us how you feel, guys?
2. Over-the-top independence. It’s attractive when a guy is a little needy and opens up to you about something emotional, but sometimes it takes so freaking long to get there, it’s hardly worth it. Too often, all we get is pushback. If you want a girlfriend, make time for us. If you’re interested, put your friends and your work and your hobbies after us. We know you’re busy and important, but we should be important to you, too. Also the opposite: being too needy or clingy is really unattractive, too.
3. Your “biological” clock. Women might want to get married and have babies before men (generally) but guys have the opposite issue. It’s been my experience that guys have a plan, too, but it doesn’t involve a wife, children — or even a steady girlfriend — until they are good and settled in their life and career. And I’m sorry, but I don’t really want to wait around for a ring until you’re 35 if we started dating at 25. That may work for you, but it doesn’t fit into my life plan. So if you want to be with me, you will have to learn to compromise. Or take the road too many guys have taken before, end it now and go for that 25-year-old when you’re ready to settle down in 10 years.
4. Clamoring for a good girlfriend, but dating hot, high maintenance, crazy chicks. If you want a girlfriend, you don’t go for the bartender in a studded, leather vest. Guys should take a look in the mirror, too. Do you really want to settle down, or just have someone to have sex with on a consistent basis?
5. …And your little dog, too. Okay, so us girls are definitely more apt to have a little dog than a guy. But the same sentiment — having something you treat like a boyfriend or child — still applies. For men, they fill up all the roles a girlfriend should have with bros, and then are surprised by the fact that they don’t have room for a woman in their life. Or worse, they refuse to make room. Even worse: when a guy has a female friend who has been in that “girlfriend” spot for years, and even if they’ve never slept together (or aren’t any more) there’s bound to be some jealousy there from both parties. Clean out a spot in your life for a girlfriend, and try not to mention your buddies — especially the close female ones — too often during conversations.
What drives you crazy about single guys? What about single women? Do you agree with YourTango’s list?