Text messaging might be the easiest and most convenient way to send a note to your friends, but when it comes to communicating with a guy, it can be anything but simple. Whether his messages are short and sweet or lengthy and in-depth, you’re usually left wondering: what is he really trying to say? And even worse, how do I respond? Here at Crushable we want to help you sift through all the subtext and emerge, textually healed.
Oh, sexting, what a fruitful topic — and one I’ve covered here before. So when a friend of mine told me about a text she received from a guy this weekend, I knew I had to go there again. The message, sent late on Friday night from a guy my friend hadn’t heard from in months (and who she hadn’t even dated) simply read:
That my friend jumped out of bed when her phone buzzed, saw the text, turned around and just went right back to sleep without responding, is pretty much exactly what I would have advised her to do. If it was me, I probably would have just assumed that it wasn’t meant for me, especially if I hadn’t heard from the guy in awhile. If a guy wants to get a little virtual something-something, there are better ways to go about it, don’t you think?
First, this guy could have been a little more engaging. Lots of guys initiate an out-of-the-blue text with something like, “Hey, what’s up?” or “How are you?” This one just jumped, shockingly, right in. My friend (the recipient) hit it right on the head. His text sent the message, “I’m too lazy to send you something sexy myself, so I will command that you do that to me,” she explained.
I guess he could have sent the same thing to many girls at once, hoping someone would bite. But honestly, even if that was the case, he could have been a little more creative. I have to admit that if someone I hadn’t spoken to in awhile texted me, “What are you wearing?” I would be much more intrigued than if I got a message just saying, “Hey.” At least this guy went all in, hoping for the sext. A little more effort, though, and he might have hit the jackpot.
However, engaging in any sexy texting just brings me back to my initial advice on the subject and my number one rule: “Don’t attempt sexting with someone who you don’t trust.” In this case, my friend was right to just ignore. Not only was this guy a total jerk in his presentation, he was also undeserving of her attention and time. If you’re going to get into a sexting session with a guy, you should make sure it’s someone you want to benefit from your imagination and wordplay, not to mention someone who can stimulate you in return. Don’t engage with someone who can only be bothered to text you every once in a while and who demands you sext him back without any hint of effort on his part. Ugh.
What’s your craziest sexy texting experience? Send your sexting stories to submissions AT crushable dot com and you might see it featured in the next installment of Textual Healing.