Aaron Johnson, the 19-year-old star of the upcoming movie Kick-Ass, has fascinated us with his relationship, and impending baby, with a 43-year-old director, and his cest la vie attitude about it all. But he’s going to be a father soon, and he’s going to have to juggle his burgeoning career (he’s on the verge of superstardom), his family and the media scrutiny. So, we went to our favorite therapist to the stars, Dr. Gilde Carle, and asked her to offer Aaron some advice for handling everything that’s about to come his way.
When it came out that Aaron had impregnated his girlfriend, Sam Taylor-Wood, not everyone approved of the situation. What’s the best way to handle the disapproval of other people?
I think its good training, whatever your circumstances, for dealing with everybody around who is going to have an opinion about what you do and who you are. Not everyone is going to approve of the things you do. Many times, a lot of people don’t approve. I’m sure Aaron’s in a state of overwhelm because he’s only 19 and now his whole life has to be devoted to this child, whether he stays with this woman or not. He’s learning the ropes of dealing with people, the good, the bad, and the ugly. And if he’s on screen, he’s going to have to learn that eventually anyway.
What advice would you give Aaron for handling the disapproval of the media and the public at large?
Go inside yourself and figure out what you want. Be dedicated to reaching your goals, no matter what anyone says. Get a thick skin and let these things roll off your back as though they were only there temporary. Don’t let you get them down, because if if you do, you’ll be letting other people control your life.
What advice would you give Aaron for juggling parenting with the spotlight as he grows up?
Focus on your children not on the spotlight. Protect them by being the best parent you can possibly be and make sure that you are with them as often as possible so that you can be a present parent. Make sure you’re emotionally present for them so that they don’t have to end up reading about you in the tabloids and so that they can have you there fully in their lives as their parent.
How will becoming a parent at such a young ag affect Aaron?
He’s going to grow up really quick. No matter what, whether he’s a child himself or he’s mature for his age, he’s still going to have to provide the parenting for this little child. His age is his age, but he’s going to grow up real quick. And before you know it, this little child is going to call him daddy, and this little child isn’t going to know that he’s 19.
You can learn more about Dr. Gilda on her Web site drgilda.com.